I'm 17 years old. I did some things in my past that I'm not very proud of. I lost my virginity when I was about 13 years old. It wasn't my choice. He forced me to do it. I moved on. I've been talking/dating this guy for almost a year now. I love him. And I do want to make love to him eventually. I'm just so scared that he'll notice that I'm not a virgin. He's had sex before so I'm more than sure he'll know. When I lost my virginity we had sex twice. Different times. Would I be considered loose? Or is my vagina the same size if I were to still be a virgin? Please help!

Sweetheart it takes almost a lifetime of sex or a few children to loosen a vagina to noticeable lengths. The term "loose" is very poorly used and is a common myth. I can guarantee you're not even close to it.

Sorry, lose is a term, if he is 1/2 the size of another man, he may be bigger or smaller,

No, having sex a few times does not make it any different ( except you are not a virgin of course)

If you have to ask those questions, are you sure you are mature and ready to have sex.
How long have you been on your birth control pills ?

Are you saying that you think a "tight" vagina indicates virginity?

You're 17, you've never had a child, so no, you're probably not loose.

Having said that, I'm a bit worried about the fact that you're so in love with this guy, but won't tell him the truth about the fact that you're not a virgin.

Why is that?

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Originally Posted by Alty

Are you saying that you think a "tight" vagina indicates virginity?

You're 17, you've never had a child, so no, you're probably not loose.

Having said that, I'm a bit worried about the fact that you're so in love with this guy, but won't tell him the truth about the fact that you're not a virgin.

Why is that?

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The very question she asked answers that I think. She's afraid of being considered loose, and judged for it.

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Originally Posted by C0bra_M3nace

The very question she asked answers that I think. She's afraid of being considered loose, and judged for it.

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Hate to say it, but having sex at 13 doesn't exactly make you a Saint. Speaking from experience here.

But, your past is your past. If you can't tell the guy that you love so much that you're not a virgin, then you shouldn't be in a relationship at all.

Have to mention that 17 is still too young to have sex.