Hi,

I got newly married and when we tried to intercourse my wife says its paining a lot when I try to push my penis into her vagina. I tried looking at her hymen I could see three small holes there but not that big to allow my penis.

She says to get her some sleeping pills or alcohol so that she will not feel any pain in that state and once hymen gets teared totally we can have normal sex..

For me , Her hymen seems to be little thik and she is physcologically frightened for insertion of penis.. she enjoys foreplay and all.

Please suggest, how can we proceed??

Thanks,
Vivek.

She should see her OB/Gyn who can best advise. In the meantime you can still pleasure each other.

Thanks for suggestion,

Does forcefull push help( using sleeping pills or liquor) , are there any chances for her to get hurt badly or lead to any problems in the future( other than phsycological problems.)

I doubt if a forceful push would cause lasting physical damage.Have you looked into lubrication? There are external lubricants you can use. I had a similar issue on my honeymoon and patience and lubricants is what got it done.

I think they mean, make sure your penis is very firm and when you start to enter, you do one very hard push to break the hymen. Yes it does hurt her ( different women hurt at various levels)

Or she can see her doctor and find he can cut or break it at his office.