Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year. For the first 6mnths our sex life was amazing we had it about 5-6 times a week... Then all of a sudden it died off to 1 or 2 times a week... I asked him about it and he said it was because he was tired from work, which I accepted since he was working 2 jobs at that time. Now that he is back working his 9-5 job nothing had changed and every time I initiate sex (which is hardly ever anymore) I am rejected. We are lucky to have sex once a week now. It makes me feel very unwanted. When I brought it up with him again I asked if he was over having sex with me and he said that I was being silly and sometimes he just isn't in the mood! I'm 19 he is 25... I have a high libido and this is making me go crazy... What can I do to make him want me again

Not the answer you want to hear but for a 25 year old man who is working once or twice a week is really not far from normal.

Five or Six times a week is the "honeymoon" state and seldom lasts more than a few months, and normally not even that long, once real life starts hitting.

1. Do you work ? Go to school, Who does all the house cleaning ?

Money stress, work stress and just working a hard day.

I also work between 30-40 hours a week.. Additional info is that most nights he would

I also work between 30-40 hours a week... Additional info is that he would prefer to stay up until all hours of the night watching sport rather than come to bed with me...

Sounds like he is unintentionally recreating the same problem. Tiring himself out so when he gets to bed he is too exhausted for any sex.

I am assuming that you've moved in together? At what point did you move in?

Also when you talked to him, you were VERY accusatory. "So are you over sex now?" Try being more of "My needs" rather than "you suck." You will probably get a better answer.

I had another question, but I have forgotten it. I am sure it will come to me.

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Originally Posted by beccav

What can I do to make him want me again

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I have a brilliant idea: take him out for raw oysters, hopefully, you live near the ocean. If you both don't like them, learn to. These are natural aphrodisiacs, I swear on my health that they work.

March 20, 2005: Raw oysters really are aphrodisiacs say scientists (and now is the time to eat them)

On this note, a poor diet affects libido negatively, and this is the problem with most couples. They get in the "comfort zone" and tend to eat at chain restaurants and frozen dinners. This may be part of his problem. Research this.