I am going to be turning 20 and still have no plans of losing my virginity.But obviously having a boyfriend ,one thing leads to another and we end up doing everything we possibly can EXCEPT the real thing.So as we get into the mood it obviously gets a little rough and I end up in pain at the end of the whole thing.. in the sense that the whole area down under starts to ache and sometimes we have to stop the process. Since I'm a virgin I honestly have no idea where the hell my "thingy" is so it is blind sexual arousement.It sometimes hits the wrong parts and the next thing I know I can't even pee without it burning.I know we are doing something wrong cause I don't think it should be affecting my peeing.Is there a limit to how rough it can get ?because basically we aren't ACTUALLY doing it.

If it's so rough that you hurt afterward, it's too rough. It's that simple.

I also think you need to educate yourself on the human body. Have you read ANYTHING on the correct name of your body "parts," how they work? If "it" is hitting the wrong "parts" and you are talking about his penis and your vagina you are at risk of getting pregnant.

You don't need full intercourse to get pregnant.