Ask Me Help Desk - Girlfriend problems.

Hey. I'm 15 years old. And need advice from adults.. My girlfriend is alwas making me depressed.. I don't know if its just me or something.. but she alwas walks around school with a lot of cleavage, and she wears a lot of tight black gym pants, it shows her butt a lot and I catch guys looking at all the time.. it breaks my heart.. I know I'm young but I know what love feels like and I had for her.. I would do anything to make her happy. She alwas says she doesn't mean it.. that's her exuse for everything.. people are telling me to break up with her but I love her and can't do it.. I have a hard time controlling my anger. And if she moved on and got new boyfriend. Id fight him. Ps: I have her virginity and she has mine.. don't hate on me, the normal age for losing is 15-20. Anyway. She lies a lot too. She will say something and then ill confront her of what she said and she will change.. I keep her from smoking, doing drugs, and doing bad in school.. what should I do? End it? Because I had other girlfriend for 2 years before and I still think about her.. but I'm over her.. took long though.. will it be the same this time? Need help.. please don't hate because my age.. idc my age.. I'm not 3.

Well, I for one was also one of those girls who wore clothes that showed my body off and got a lot of attention. Then when I first started dating my (ex)boyfriend, he would tell me how all of his guy friends would stare at me and talk about me and the clothes I was wearing. And how no man is going to respect a woman who wears those kinds of clothes. No body wants to take a girl dressed like that to meet his mother.
I honestly think he said that so other guys would stop staring at me as much. But it worked. I stopped wearing those clothes (most of the time). I mean clothes are expensive and I can't afford to get a new wardrobe. I also didn't see what the big deal was. I liked the attention and it's not like I was sleeping with any of them.
I don't think clothes are a reason to break up with her. You knew what kind of clothes she wore when you first met.
And what exactly is she lying about? My ex would lie, but he'd always do it to test me, because he had some serious trust issues. So I looked over that. It's really a matter of what she's lying about and how much it gets to you.
It's sounds to me like you're getting annoyed with her. So if you are, then dump her. Of course you're still going to remember her, if you love her. But you're not her dad. It's not up to you to prevent her from doing drugs. Even though I think 15 is really young, you're not going to end up marrying the girl you lost your virginity too (most likely). And anyway, if you still think about her so much then maybe you can get back together.

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Originally Posted by idkmybffjill

Well, I for one was also one of those girls who wore clothes that showed my body off and got a lot of attention. Then when I first started dating my (ex)boyfriend, he would tell me how all of his guy friends would stare at me and talk about me and the clothes I was wearing. And how no man is going to respect a woman who wears those kinds of clothes. No body wants to take a girl dressed like that to meet his mother.
I honestly think he said that so other guys would stop staring at me as much. But it worked. I stopped wearing those clothes (most of the time). I mean clothes are expensive and I can't afford to get a new wardrobe. I also didn't see what the big deal was. I liked the attention and it's not like I was sleeping with any of them.
I don't think clothes are a reason to break up with her. You knew what kind of clothes she wore when you first met.
And what exactly is she lying about? My ex would lie, but he'd always do it to test me, because he had some serious trust issues. So I looked over that. It's really a matter of what she's lying about and how much it gets to you.
It's sounds to me like you're getting annoyed with her. So if you are, then dump her. Of course you're still going to remember her, if you love her. But you're not her dad. It's not up to you to prevent her from doing drugs. Even though I think 15 is really young, you're not going to end up marrying the girl you lost your virginity too (most likely). And anyways, if you still think about her so much then maybe you can get back together.

Thanks for the advice.. only thing is.. ima guy and as guys we don't really show off our body.. if you were a guy.. ud see the bad thing if your girlfriend was getting attention.. no one wants a girl that looks for attention.. we want a girl that's ours only.. and yeah :/ I have extremely bad trust issues.