I am a 15 year old male who's love of his life is 12. She is very mature and we love each other very much. The only problem is she is 12 and is my dads girlfriends sister. Ik what a shocker and how gross. Yeah call it what u want but we love each other and I need advice.

Well if you love each other than love cannot break unless wanted to. Age doesn't matter, it's what you like about each other! What kind of advice do you need?

-superman :P

Do her parents allow her to date? A 12 yr old (no matter how mature) is still a child and doesn't really know whether they are in love or not. Despite juveniles who think age doesn't matter, it DOES matter. It matters less and less as people get older, so a 21 yr old and an 18 yr old is VERY different from 15 and 12.

You are still too young to understand what having a love of your life is.

But the bottom line here is her parents. If they permit her to date, then it is all right for you to date. However, it is NOT all right for you to get intimate with her to any degree. ANY sexual advances on your part could get you in jail.

I understand about the age difference. And like I said she is very mature and so am I. The only thing is, is that she is my dads girlfriends sister! And we can not let our parents know or they will kill us and see each other again. And thanks for the advice but I need more.

What do you need advice for?

There's no advice needed. You guys are both children, and behaving like children. There is no love at your age, only attraction. Separate before your parents find out, because they marry, both of you are in big trouble if you do anything stupid.

Yes, you both show how immature you are, since a mature person would do what they have to do, legally and proper.

1. 12 is a child, and even mature just means that you and her is justifying something wrong.
2. can't talk to parents, means you know it is wrong and knows they won't allow it.

So you don't date, and you wait till you are both old enough to do it properly

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Yes, you both show how immature you are, since a mature person would do what they have to do, legally and proper.

1. 12 is a child, and even mature just means that you and her is justifying something wrong.
2. can't talk to parents, means you know it is wrong and knows they won't allow it.

So you don't date, and you wait till you are both old enough to do it properly

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Of course they won't allow it, these two kids are practically related.

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Originally Posted by K412

I understand about the age difference. And like i said she is very mature and so am i. The only thing is, is that she is my dads girlfriends sister! And we can not let our parents know or they will kill us and see eachother again. And thanks for the advice but i need more.

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My mother's maternal grandmother married her paternal grandfather when my mother young. You are not related even if her sister marries your dad.

However, you have just proven how immature you both are and unrealistic this relationship is. I suspect the attraction is forbidden fruit NOT real love. But you have basically answered your own question. If you can't tell your parents, then you can't continue the relationship. It's that simple and that's all she wrote.

See our plan is to just stay together as long as possiable and keep it on the down low. We are not horny little kids we are young adults in love. We want to get married one day and I hope that's what happens.

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Originally Posted by bibi108

Being with her is fine as long as she likes you back. The one thing to remember is she is three years younger than you and is female. You have alot of power over her and that may not be a good thing. Just make sure you are not rushing her into anything or taking advantage because this could lead to sexual abuse towards her.

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So you advocate children sneaking behind their parents backs? Disobeying their parents?

Children need parental approval to date. Without it, they could get in serious legal trouble.

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Originally Posted by K412

See our plan is to just stay together as long as possiable and keep it on the down low. We are not horny little kids we are young adults inlove. We want to get married one day and i hope thats what happens.

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No you are immature children playing at being adults. The fact is that you cannot stay together without your parents permission. It is not a relationship to sneak around behind their backs. The more you do, the worse they will take it when they DO find out.

I have no doubt your feelings feel real to you. But you are too young to know how real they are. You NEED to tell your parents and see what they say.

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So you advocate children sneaking behind their parents backs? Disobeying their parents?

Children need parental approval to date. Without it, they could get in serious legal trouble.

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I don't think they meant it like that but they did make me think for a second

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I dont think they ment it like that but they did make me think for a second

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That's the problem with the way some people respond here. They don't think their answers through. Whether it was meant or not is immaterial. ANY response that advocates that you continue as you have been is encouraging you to go around your parents.

But yes, her feelings for you may be more due to that fact that you are older and she is basking in the attention of an "older man", than her actually being in love with you.

At this age, this is not love, it is lust and attraction. I remember when I was around that age, I had a few of these attractions, and thought we'd get married the whole nine yards. Yeah, guess what, it doesn't last.

Good luck at it lasting, and good luck at hiding it, and good luck to you both if your parents find out.

Love can wait.

and if it can't then it isn't love =)
Try dating her after a couple years.Since u claim to be in love you guys can surely wait a couple years and if it is really serious then nothing can get in the way.cheers.

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Originally Posted by ivgot_issues

and if it can't then it isn't love =)
Try dating her after a couple years.Since u claim to be in love you guys can surely wait a couple years and if it is really serious then nothing can get in the way.cheers.

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Is this behind her parents' backs?

Well I'm still confused on the whole situation I'm tired of hiding our love for each other but if either of our parents find out we are dead. Ugh! Love stinks! YEAH YEAHH

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and if it can't then it isn't love =)
Try dating her after a couple years.Since u claim to be in love you guys can surely wait a couple years and if it is really serious then nothing can get in the way.cheers.

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You are suggesting that they date behind their parents' backs?