My boyfriend looks at a lot of porn. I don't mind porn at all but our sex is getting less and less frequent and more and more lackluster. I think that he looks at porn and jerks off so much that he no longer wants to have sex with me. I am a curious person sexually and am pretty good looking and would love to do it all the time and in different ways but he told me it's just not that important to him. Clearly it is.I am even open to watching it with him. I am getting so sexually frustrated and feeling like I should go elsewhere for sex because it seems like he is. Every time I talk to him he says it's normal but not wanting have sex with your girlfriend does not seem normal. We have had a few other problems as well and even though I love him to death and love being around him I feel like we should just split because I am so horny I am about to explode. What to do?

I myself have watched porn and it does really make a man obsessed watching it, it reduces the amount of desperation for women. Don't worry, from what I can see and know, he does not go anywhere to have sex, he might have been jerking off, but you have got to stop him from having to watch porn and jerking off, try and delete the websites on the computer and put parental controls on, throw away his DVD's and block T.V channels.
He will eventually want to have sex, my girlfriend and I like to take it slow, she knows I jerk off sometimes but its natural, you need to be there when he wants sex.
You must be a really attractive women and god bless you, he wouldn't go to another girl leaving a beautiful women who is ready to have sex.
If he is cheating I suggest you find yourself a sex mate if youlove sex really frequently.

And that's all
-my experience-
Ryan(: Good luck

Give serious thought to have you been nagging him... is he ticked off about something? That's if you are the cause, knowingly or not. Then there is the stress end of things... How old is he? When was his last complete physical... does he actually have a job... what kind of job... money issues... etc... etc... These are things you have no control over that will put dampers... over even the brakes on anything in that area.

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Originally Posted by ryananthony

I myself have watched porn and it does really make a man obsessed watching it, it reduces the amount of desperation for women. Don't worry, from what i can see and know, he does not go anywhere to have sex, he might have been jerking off, but you have got to stop him from having to watch porn and jerking off, try and delete the websites on the computer and put parental controls on, throw away his DVD's and block T.V channels.
He will eventually want to have sex, my girlfriend and i like to take it slow, she knows i jerk off sometimes but its natural, you need to be there when he wants sex.
You must be a really attractive women and god bless you, he wouldn't go to another girl leaving a beautiful women who is ready to have sex.
If he is cheating i suggest you find yourself a sex mate if youlove sex really frequently.

And thats all
-my experience-
Ryan(: Good luck

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I have specifically told her IF he is cheating on her, which doesn't leave a option of ending the relationship.

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Originally Posted by maymay1

My boyfriend looks at alot of porn. I don't mind porn at all but our sex is getting less and less frequent and more and more lackluster. I think that he looks at porn and jerks off so much that he no longer wants to have sex with me. I am a curious person sexually and am pretty good looking and would love to do it all the time and in different ways but he told me it's just not that important to him. Clearly it is.I am even open to watching it with him. I am getting so sexually frustrated and feeling like I should go elsewhere for sex because it seems like he is. Everytime I talk to him he says it's normal but not wanting have sex with your girlfriend does not seem normal. We have had a few other problems as well and even though I love him to death and love being around him I feel like we should just split because I am so horny I am about to explode. What to do?

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A major red flag is that you have had other problems in your relationship. Have these issues been resolved or were they 'discussed' then ignored?

Many times issues in the bedroom stem from problems in other parts of the relationship. Lack of interest in sex and porn can be symptoms of other problems.

Talk to your boyfriend about the relationship in general and find out if he is still affected by the previous problems.

Yes, it can be normal for a person who is stressed, under pressure, exhausted, having medical issues, etc. to not want sex with a partner. Does he still show affection in other ways?

Quite frankly, if sex means so much to you that you are ready to walk away, then you might want to think about how deep your feelings for him are. You haven't said how long you have been together or how long this has been an issue. Are you as invested in the relationship as you want him to be?