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  • Jun 13, 2012, 03:51 PM
    Loui294
    How to deal with brother abuse
    I am 17 years old. For the past few weeks Ive been getting nightmares, the same one over and over. But have recently realized that these nightmares are memories from when I was about 6 years old. My brother who is 4 years older than me used to touch me. He would bring me to his room and make me take my clothes off, down to my underwear and lie in his bed. He only ever touched my chest area but I feel so disgusted.

    I have grown up with him not knowing what he did. But I don't know what to do. Should I confront him? But what if he doesn't even remember? And he probably didn't know what he was doing as he was a young age too. I don know whether to tell my parents or even tell my boyfriend, I'm afraid if I tell my boyfriend he'll find me disgusting and won't want anything to do with me.

    My relationship with my brother has always been difficult. He has always made me feel bad about myself, insulting me and calling me names as if I'm nothing but dirt. But we have had some nice family times where we get along and don't fight. I don't know what to do and need advice, so please help me.
  • Jun 13, 2012, 04:00 PM
    Homegirl 50
    I would imagine he remembers something like that.
    I would confront him. He is not a child now. Maybe confronting him would stop the nightmares.
  • Jun 13, 2012, 11:15 PM
    talaniman
    Now I would wonder why or what has triggered these nightmares the last few weeks. What was going on about then in your life. I would not confront him without having more facts. Nor would I tell your parents yet.

    I think only a professional can help you get to the bottom of this,
  • Jun 14, 2012, 01:53 AM
    amicon
    Find a therapist-I agree you need professional help to sort this out.

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