Okay, umm... I love this man that I have been dating on and off for two years. We have dated twice. He loves me. We broke it off a couple weeks ago, well, actually I did. I don't know exactly why I did, but I did. I am trying everything to get him back. I leave him nice voicemails and e-mails. We are just good friends now. I told him how much I care about him and that I really love him. He says he loves me as well. We decided to wait a month from Valentine's Day to see if we would work. In the meantime, I feel so sick without him. I think it is true love. I know he misses me. Any suggestions on how to get him back? I was told to give him time. What does that mean?

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Originally Posted by sarxx7

Okay, umm...I love this man that I have been dating on and off for two years. We have dated twice. He loves me. We broke it off a couple weeks ago, well, actually I did. I don't know exactly why I did, but I did. I am trying everything to get him back. I leave him nice voicemails and e-mails. We are just good friends now. I told him how much I care about him and that I really love him. He says he loves me as well. We decided to wait a month from Valentine's Day to see if we would work. In the meantime, I feel so sick without him. I think it is true love. I know he misses me. Any suggestions on how to get him back? I was told to give him time. What does that mean?

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Why did u guys break up? Start from there and then try and patch it up. I think the whole giving him space is ridiculious because why would anyone want the person they love spaced from them? Keep trying girl it will be better.

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Originally Posted by sarxx7

Okay, umm...I love this man that I have been dating on and off for two years. We have dated twice. He loves me. We broke it off a couple weeks ago, well, actually I did. I don't know exactly why I did, but I did. I am trying everything to get him back. I leave him nice voicemails and e-mails. We are just good friends now. I told him how much I care about him and that I really love him. He says he loves me as well. We decided to wait a month from Valentine's Day to see if we would work. In the meantime, I feel so sick without him. I think it is true love. I know he misses me. Any suggestions on how to get him back? I was told to give him time. What does that mean?

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Okay... well we broke up because I got extremely bad at him over some comments he was making during dinner. He said that he was flirting with me but I couldn't believe how immature he was being. I had a bad day at work and I should not have taken it out on him. I was in the relationship for the long hall and well... I screwed up and just gave up. I realize how much of a mistake it was. He says he has stuff to take care of and he doesn't know who he is. We are both eighteen. I love him so much.

Whenever I talk to him he avoids talking about our relationship. Occasionally he will say he loves me. I believe him. I tell him that I love him all the time. Although this brief, should I give up, or what should I do?

Relax.

Take a breath.

You broke it off with him, even if its "temporary"

He deserves some time to think about whether he wants to be with you. And you should really want him to take the time to figure it out.

You can't be upset he doesn't talk about the relationship AND be upset he needs time to think it through.

Guys sometimes process things differently. I know ill internalize and digest stuff a long time before ill ever just sit around and chat about my "feelings"

So I think you need to be yourself. You need to find a way not to lash out after a bad day. And you need to let him figure out if this is OK or not.

You both are still young and learning to love.
If it is really "true love" then things will run their course and will work out for the both of you.
You can't force someone's feelings for you.

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Originally Posted by sarxx7

Okay, umm...I love this man that I have been dating on and off for two years. We have dated twice. He loves me. We broke it off a couple weeks ago, well, actually I did. I don't know exactly why I did, but I did. I am trying everything to get him back. I leave him nice voicemails and e-mails. We are just good friends now. I told him how much I care about him and that I really love him. He says he loves me as well. We decided to wait a month from Valentine's Day to see if we would work. In the meantime, I feel so sick without him. I think it is true love. I know he misses me. Any suggestions on how to get him back? I was told to give him time. What does that mean?

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I tend to get a bit emotional and I have a lot of family issues. He had been good with me. He said that things changed and we are not the people we once thought we were. He wanted to marry me one day, but I guess with graduating soon we are growing apart. I have been hesitant to leave him alone because I do not want him to forget the things he loved about me. I try and be friendly with him and be the girl he loves. I've stopped by to see him a few times when we broke up and he has told me that he loves me no matter if we are together or not before I leave each time. I just don't understand, if you love someone, why do you have to give it time? If you love someone you are willing to work it out, not just ignore her, right?

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Originally Posted by sarxx7

I just don't understand, if you love someone, why do you have to give it time? If you love someone you are willing to work it out, not just ignore her, right?

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If you love someone, you don't break it off after one fight. That's where he's coming from.

This has nothing to do with his feelings for you. It's about his perceptions of your feelings for him. By breaking up with him over something that minor and pointless, you showed him that your feelings aren't worth the minor inconvenience of trying to work it out.

For him to take you back, he has to come to the conclusion that you won't do that again. There's nothing you can do to speed that up or help it along... anything you do in that vein will simply feed into a nasty cycle of breaking up and getting back together over pointless stuff that's never truly forgiven or learned from, and you'll just end up hating each other over something that doesn't even matter to either of you.

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Originally Posted by sarxx7

Okay, umm...I love this man that I have been dating on and off for two years. We have dated twice. He loves me. We broke it off a couple weeks ago, well, actually I did. I don't know exactly why I did, but I did. I am trying everything to get him back. I leave him nice voicemails and e-mails. We are just good friends now. I told him how much I care about him and that I really love him. He says he loves me as well. We decided to wait a month from Valentine's Day to see if we would work. In the meantime, I feel so sick without him. I think it is true love. I know he misses me. Any suggestions on how to get him back? I was told to give him time. What does that mean?

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So... basically I have to let this run its course. I have to let him decide. There's nothing I can do to convince him? Like how will he know if it will happen again or not? He constantly says he does not know what the future will bring, which he never said before. But if he does not take the risk, how will he know. You can't live life hesitating. He promised me he would marry me, but now, well obviously, since I broke up with him, "things have changed"-as he has put it. He told me I should be careful what I wish for because I always said you deserve someone better. He would always say in response, there is no one like you.

I am just having a tough time dealing with it. I am so incredibly mad at myself for letting this happen. I would do anything to take it back. His family liked me and vice versa. I guess I screwed up pretty bad, huh?