I am in search of the other woman. I only have her maiden name that she uses although she has been married and is not yet divorced. Her name is Lisa Baird from Mission Viejo Ca. If anyone has any info on her at all it would be gratefully appreciated. She has taken money from us and is having an on going affair with my husband and father of our 6 children.
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Searching for help here on this web site might turn up information on the wrong Lisa Baird, and I am sure you want to make sure you have the right one.

I think your best bet would be to find and hire a private detective in your area. He/she should turn something up quickly enough, and I am sure he/she will find the Lisa Baird you are looking for.

If I knew of a Lisa Baird, why would I tell you? How do I know what you say is true? Your husband is having the affair with her, ask him. Takes two to tango.

Do a net search on a website like people search. Like Ruby said, hire a priivate detective.

I agree withshygrneyzs! You could be making up this whole story just to get info about people you don't know!!

I think that the "other woman" isn't your problem - it's your relationship with your husband. Stop wasting your energy looking for her and deal with your marriage. By the way, how could she take money from you? It sounds more like your husband gave her money. If, in fact she really did "take" it, call the police.

Truly though, if you want to save your marriage you aren't going to do it by finding her. She is a symptom.

You should definitely get yourself to a good counsellor for both support through a rough time and to explore why you feel finding the other woman is more important than focusing on your failing relationship.

Good luck!

Didi

Wow you guys are nasty people. I came on here as a last resort to look for someone that is destroying my marriage, I have gotten all the info from my husband I possibly can, I hope that if any of you are ever in this situation that you find kinder and more helpful people than I.

Tommie8, I am sorry you are hurt. This is a free website. As such, you are going to receive varied responses to your question. You may not like what they have to say, but they have a right to say it. The fact is, since no one knows you and your personal situation, people have a tendency to be leery of your question. It is not so cut and dry to others as it is to you.

I am sorry you are in such personal pain.

Please consider my original suggestion to hire a private detective. It is your best bet to finding the person you are looking for. Without more information as to your situation and who this woman is, it is an impossibility for you to find the help you are requesting using this web site.

Tommie8, you really need to consult an attorney regarding your marriage and what could happen from naming names and accusations on a public forum. You only need one battle and naming people could cause bigger problems.

True, this "other woman" could look at this forum and this series of postings and have a completely different opinion.

I do have an understanding of what you are going through - my ex cheated also, but I made it only my business to find out who and where. You know her name and where she lives. Hiring a private detective is a wise idea and also contacting an attorney for your own issues with your husband's affair.

Look, I'm sorry if what I wrote hurt you, but you said this woman is having an "ongoing" affair with your husband. That to me says it's still happening, and as such I think the "other woman" should not be your focus. You said she has taken money from you - then the appropriate authorities are the police - not a public forum. You could get yourself in a lot of trouble posting a person's name and accusing them of taking money. I still think you need to protect yourself first, let the police deal with the illegal part of it, and a marriage counsellor deal with the rest.

Sometimes it is hard to hear other people's thoughts on something that seems so clear to us. I guess that if I am hearing a lot of the same thing from people then I figure I might need to think about what they are saying. You know... hard to see for the forest for the trees?

I am also sorry for what you are going through, but again, I just think you might be wasting a lot of energy on something that isn't going to get you anywhere except maybe in trouble.

Hugs,
Didi

I have been the cheated wife in the past. She isn't destroying your marriage, your husband is. Looking for her on here isn't really going to help. If she has stolen money report her to the police, they will find her if a crime has been committed. Get yourself a good lawyer and divorce your husband, and get as much out of him as possible. Far more productive!