Me and my girlfriend of 3 yrs split for a month. We still talk but she told me that she is comfortable with the breakup. And that we should do things the christian way, but I noticed the whole month I been intiating the contact then she will text back, it just seems like her actions aren't there. I ask her can we hang out she said yea but now things come up, then I slipped and asked for sex I think she got kind of upset. I feel no that I shoud use no contact because its really not going past friends and textn every now and then is just not enough for me.

She's just stringing you along. Realistically, she probably has no intentions of ever getting back together with you at all.

I would just tell her that she wanted a break, she got it, and now you're moving on... then I would do no contact and find someone else.

Many times when one partner wants a break or "space", it is because they have someone else and are just seeing how things are going with that other person. They keep the ex tagging along in case it doesn't work out for them. Other times the break is an easier way for them to break up with a person without actually doing so.

Forget her and carry on with your life.

Took alomost four months but by my birthday in sept we got back together well at least I though so we hung out once a week for football and the sex was 1000 times better, things took a turn when I started going to her place in which was odd to me but enyways a about a week and a half ago I went over to her place unexcpected I knock no one came but I new she was home because I no her she didn't answer, so I go around back and go inside this is something I have been doing she never got upset about it but this time she flipped out on me she said that I broke in her house and I was like what the is this crazy or she maybe not who I think she is, with a reaction like that and she new it was me why would someone get upset, enyway after that she broke up with me and wasn't going to even tell me until I bumped into the following Monday because we live down the street from each other I tried to talk to her she didn't even want to look at me I literally had to beg her to talk she just went on and on about I had so many chances she doesn't want to be my girlfriend and that I broke into her house seems so delusional, I almost broke in half I tried to say sorry she wouldn't even let me, was so fukn crazy its sad because we were spilt for 11 years and got back together in June of 2009 this time I thought we could make it but oh well I guess not...

You should have just let her go before. See what happened now? You are now going through this pain all over again. Just move on and find someone that will care for you.

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Originally Posted by odinn7

You should have just let her go before. See what happened now? You are now going through this pain all over again. Just move on and find someone that will care for you.

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Why did it happen like that she took me back and then let me go , well I did leave some things out like years ago when we dated I was 21 we broke up after dating for a year and a half, I broke in on her wile she was sleep I wanted to have sex with her but I didn't hurt her I just scared her, after that I moved on to another girl 8 yrs, she forgave me for the past I mean I have cheated on her she forgave me I think when I went through the back door on her again it reminded her of the past I really ed up she was home alone I should have just went home when she didn't respond to me knockn at the door I must be honest its moslty a bad way to be on my behalf, and I think this was the final straw for her, I don't blame her, I just made a mistake and will pay for it . She is a wonderful woman she never cheated on me never did anything to hurt me I always hurt her that's why she has always put her guard up against me, that's why now she says it over and won't talk to me.

You pretty much answered yourself in that last post. Look at all that you left out on us before... that changes things a little.

Still, time to forget about her, let her live in peace, and move on.

Yea I left a lot out becauseim selfish I have some real deep self improvement but its not her fault she deserves the best, not to wait for me to be what she needs, sometimes people out grown and just get tired of bs, I now she is tired of my bs but she wants to be my friend I'm just going to exit to the left now and fade away I love her and I now she won't be replaced in my heart but too much damage was done