My dad has a girlfriend and she has two kids,one is 9,the other is 16. They recently just moved in with us. I share a room with the 9 year old. We used to have a lot of fun together. But now,all she does is sit around and acts like I'm not here. And if I even get to talk to her she just immediately walks away. One day, whenever I did talk to her she'd talk smart or yell and get angry.I've told her mom but all her mom does is fuss and says I have an attitude when I don't even do anything. The most irritable thing the 9 year old does is just make a bad situation worse by saying some inconsiderate things. I'm very sick of this, and I want us to get along more.My dad is upset about us not getting along too. What should I do?

How old are you?

You sound very thoughtful, no matter how old you are.

This is always a difficult transition- new home, new family, adjusting to many things. Perhaps she had her own room before, and it's not you she's angry at, but angry at losing what she had.

Complaining about her to her mother, won't change the fact that there is an adjustment period, that may go on for some time, until things feel normal again.

Her mother disciplining her, won't change how she feels right now.

Be patient, and keep anything critical to yourself, at least for the time being.

If it makes you feel better to let someone know what's going on, get yourself a diary, and write your thoughts/experiences out, and make sure nobody gets hold of them. I am sure that over time, your entries will be fewer and fewer, and, you will again become close with her.

She is only 9, and moving and learning how to be a family again, is a bigger adjustment than what it may be for you.

Ignore her for the time being, completely. If she asks you something, ignore her. Give her the same treatment she is giving you. Eventually she will wonder why you aren't responding to her or talking to her.

In other words, if the shoe fits, wear it.

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Originally Posted by Jake2008

How old are you?

You sound very thoughtful, no matter how old you are.

This is always a difficult transition-
home, new family, adjusting to many
things. Perhaps she had her own
room before, and it's not you she's
angry at, but angry at losing what she
had.

Complaining about her to her mother, won't change the fact that there is an adjustment period, that may go on for
some time, until things feel normal again.

Her mother disciplining her, won't
change how she feels right now.
Be patient, and keep anything critical
to yourself, at least for the time being.

If it makes you feel better to let someone know what's going on, get yourself a diary, and write your thoughts/experiences out, and make
sure nobody gets hold of them. I am sure that over time, your entries will be fewer and fewer, and, you will again become close with her.

She is only 9, and moving and learning how to be a family again, is a
bigger adjustment than what it may be for you.

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Thank you. This was a very helpful answer. I'll use your advice and see if it gets better. By the way, I am 11 years old.