I am 24 years old and have been married for almost 4 years. My husband and I have not been having sex for about 2 or 3 years. I tried so hard for a long while but now I have given up just about. I'm not talking about cheating or anything but I just don't know what to do. I have even cried over this because it just makes me feel like such a peace of . I know this isn't true because I get lots of attention from other damn good looking guys. Why doesn't want me? Every thing else is great why not this.

Honey, you need to talk to your husband. It's easier said than done I know. Are you generally still having fun? Is there someone who could act as a mediary? A friend or pastor? Is he under pressure at work? Do you have children, money worries?
There are many things that can affect a persons sex drive. It could be physical & it could just as easily be environmental or psycological.

The key to resolving it is to find out the underlying causes, this can only come about through talking.
If you can't speak to him, why not write him a letter explaining how you feel? He may be feeling the same and needs someone to open the discussion?

Don't sit in silence, be brave and try to do something about it.
All the best

Moomin

Has he seen a doctor? My first thought this is a medical condition and I bet at 21 or 22 whenever this started the thought of going to a doctor about this scared him.

Don't tell me he has become a computer junkie?

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Don't tell me he has become a computer junkie?

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Yes... computers...

Hell --I`m a computer junky -- but druther get laided any time/place/way