My son will be 18 in November and is still wanting to live with me I took your advice last time and told him to wait until he turned 18 however now he tells him he can not come see me this Summer(on my visitation) because he has to get a job to pay for cell phone, gas, and car insurance.

First its not a good idea to piggyback your question on another thread. This can lead to confusion. So I've moved your question to its own thread.

So your ex is telling your son that he can't come visit because he has to earn money to pay for those things. Is your ex paying for them? Does he have a car now?

Once he is 18 your ex can't stop him. He can, however, cancel his cell phone and car insurance. Why can't you line up a job for him? What type of job would he get where he is now? See if you can find him a similar job.

Sorry, I am new to getting advice on line and not sure where I am suppose to ask/answer the question
My son has a car and he is doing odd jobs right now for family members (on his dad's side) to pay for those things. I feel like he is using stuff to control the situation my ex is suppose to pay for 75% of the transportation however I have paid 50% most of the time sometimes more
I don't think he will let him take his car when he is 18 he is a co signer on the title. This is not my main concern I am happy to purchase another car and phone
Isn't he now in violation of the parenting plan if he does not pay and let him come visit me?

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Isn't he now in violation of the parenting plan if he does not pay and let him come visit me?

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That would depend on the terms of the parenting plan. Are you asking whether the parenting plan requires the father to pay the vehicle expenses as part of your visitation rights? That would be unusual, to say the least.

The parenting plan requires him though pay 75% of the transportation costs it also says I get my son for five weeks in the Summer so if he tells my son he can't come see me because he has to get a job to pay for gas and he won't help pay for gas to come see me isn't that a violation of the parenting plan

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The parenting plan requires him tho pay 75% of the transportation costs it also says I get my son for five weeks in the Summer so if he tells my son he can't come see me because he has to get a job to pay for gas and he won't help pay for gas to come see me isn't that a violation of the parenting plan

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Looks like it to me. I imagine the original idea was to put a young child on an airplane, not ask a near-adult to drive there, but it would be the same.

Yes he was 11 when the plan was put into place that's kind of why I was wondering how much this plan is going to be enforced if my son gets fed up and leaves. I keep thinking if I violate the plan at least I would see a judge and my son would finally have his day in court as well

The problem is that the parenting plan may end at 18. And, at 18 your son doesn't have to listen to him.

I know that he does not have to stay once he is 18 but I am afraid he is not going to wait until November and I don't want to be in trouble when he refuses to go back to his Dad's as a Mom it is really hard to send your 17 year old back to a place that makes him really unhappy