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Shall pass
Thank you for responding.
My first question is,do you know of any legal resources available to me in the area of Putnam County New York(where my case was originally opened)? I have called so many different agencies, but haven't been able to find someone who could take my case on. I.E., no lawyers available at the time or no funding for a pro bono lawyer in my county. I dont want to utilize legal aide again, because I would be tossing the coin on, hoping I would be appointed a lawyer who actually "gives a crap". I am sure all legal aide attorneys aren't like my original lawyer, but I have too much at stake to go in the courtroom with someone who'd rather be somewhere else, in my eyes. Especially since my husband was able to shell out cash for 2 different lawyers when he wasn't satisfied with his first. I stood in the courtroom as my husbands lawyer lied to know end to the judge, while my lawyer stood there defenseless, because he never bother returning any phone calls, to discuss facts of my case.
Yes, I was awarded court ordered child support(which should be modified because he makes a significant amount more of money),
No my lawyer don't ask for spousal support, we are legally married for eight years and I have been home with the girls since 2007, during his deployments and PD career.
I understand now, that I should have left a LONG time ago, but during they time I was a shell of a person In a sense. Just trying to do things that would set him off. Not neglecting the girls, trying to be a good mom to them through it all. But a GOOD mom wouldn't have allowed those things to happen. We are out of the situation now, but things have completely fallen apart for us, because I reached out for help, which basically fell on deaf ears. I have had 2 court dates scheduled, for a modification hearing allowing me and the girls to relocate, but couldn't find a lawyer. My case was dismissed without prejudice.
Throughout the years of abuse, I was always threatened that he would break my jaw if I called the cops, he would tell them I am lying, no one would believe me or even care, because he was a cop. I know now that he Just wanted to keep the control .
I was in contact with his Sgt in the very beginning of the DV case. He wanted me to describe instances of abuse, which I did. I asked if he wanted to talk to me in person, he declined. My husbands guns were taken away, during the OOP. 2 weeks ago my husband called me to see him. I said no. From that moment he called and texted my phone, the ENTIRE day, calling me a loser, welfare whore, I am a liar....... I asked him to stop calling me, he wouldn't. I went to the precint and filed a police report. I have text messages in my old phone from FEB, with him saying he's outside my building,I better do what's right, before it's too late, texting me at midnight, saying the kids want to talk to me. (which was a lie, he wanted to talk yo me but I didn't want to speak to him).
In my phone he stole at Laguardia airport, there were dozens of text from him to me saying he was gonna kill himself, him threatening me. In the notes section of my phone I had written down dates and specific details of his abuse on the dates that they happened. I never received medical treatment, so no proof their. But on one occasion after hitting me in the face, he closed the bedroom door right on my head with all of his might. Instantly a giant goose egg with a cut in it popped up, I thought he'd cracked my skull. My mom in law came in and "smoothed" things over so I wouldn't call the police on her son. To this day I realize how stupid I was, for NOT calling, look where my kids and I are today... In a shelter with no one or nothing.
My entire family is 1200 miles away in Alabama, where I was born and raided. My family is hurting because they can't really do anything, right now financially, as far as having 25,000 dollars for a lawyer to represent me. They feel like me and the girls have been let down. My family loves me and the girls do much. My mom feels like she's just waiting on "a phone call". I tell them not to worry, but how could they not. My sister got a notarized letter. Stating that me and the girls can live with her (military vet and elementary school teacher and mom)
