Hello- I just have some questions and need some advice. I'm so frustrated with my boyfriend and don't know if it is normal or not. We have been together for four years now. We have not moved in with each other or anything I'm waiting until I'm done with college before that, but I'm constantly making time for him basically he is the one I am with if I'm not at work or school. Every time we are together we HAVE to have sex, well he has to have sex.

I'm so annoyed by it that I don't even care. He works third shift so when he gets home its around two and I have things to do in the morning and he still wants to have sex. Over the course of our four years I honestly think that the only days we didn't have sex were the ones that we didn't see each other. Is this normal? I feel that if I don't have sex with him or pleasure him he will find it else where. I just don't know what to do.

He will even have me come over before he goes to work to have sex, for example I get off at 3 and he works at 5 so I will go over there and then he will want to have sex and I try to tell him that it makes me feel like crap but he doesn't get it. He thinks this is normal. Not sure what to do about it.

Thank you for reading and I appreciate any advice you have.

You sound like a booty call, sounds like cheaper than paying for a hooker. Sorry a boyfriend takes time to talk, will respect your feelings.

So how about saying NO to sex if you are not in the mood and see what happens, How about talking with him and telling him that you are not happy and need to know that you are not being used.

Is he working to be there if you need him, * your schedule sometimes*

Time to start being treated as a equal partner or get paid for being a booty call.

He thinks its normal because you have made it normal. Until you can start saying "NO, not now", it will remain normal. If you think you are annoyed now, and feel like crap just imagine if you lived together. Get over your fear of losing him, and see he may not be worth keeping.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

He thinks its normal because you have made it normal. Until you can start saying "NO, not now", it will remain normal. If you think you are annoyed now, and feel like crap just imagine if you lived together. Get over your fear of losing him, and see he may not be worth keeping.

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You are so right! Thank you, and I do fear losing him, cause he seems to be the only thing I got, again thank you.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

You sound like a booty call, sounds like cheaper than paying for a hooker. sorry a boyfriend takes time to talk, will respect your feelings.

So how about saying NO to sex if you are not in the mood and see what happens, How about talking with him and telling him that you are not happy and need to know that you are not being used.

Is he working to be there if you need him, * your schedule sometimes*

Time to start being treated as a equal partner or get paid for being a booty call.

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That is truly how I feel sometimes, a booty call, but we have been together so long it seems impossible for me not to mean anything more than that, I am so tired of just having sex and I think you are right, cause he could do this with anyone. I think its time for a change. Thank you!

I just think that he has a high sex drive but if you are scared of him leaving tell him, all I can say is would you rather him want sex then not? After 4 years and he still wants it every day sounds like a good thing but everyday is abit strange just tell him and see what he says, I think after 4 years he will understand and deal with it because he obv wants to

You're looking at this as if he is the problem. Well, he isn't the problem, nor are you the problem. The problem is that you two are a bad match. I think you should move on to someone else.

Sex is what makes romantic relationships romantic. If boyfriend and girlfriend have different expectations regarding sex, then problems will arise. Trying to fix this within a relationship is damn near impossible and usually leads to cheating, which, causes even more problems.

For the record, I read an article that said the best time for couples to have sex is in the middle of the night. Like, just when you wake up from sleeping and are still partially asleep, start having sex. Then fall asleep again and wake up in the morning.

A couple that can't compromise and work together seldom has a long happy healthy future. No matter what the issue is its how they solve it.