My boyfriend, his daughter, my son, and myself having been living in the same house for three years. My boyfriend and his BM have joint custody with a week to week visitation. She gets the child one week, we get her one week. So basically, on her week she is leaving her home alone (she 11), the child is scared. She doesn't have fitting clothes there, she sends her to school with no lunch, she doesn't take her to her activities. She's a deadbeat. My boyfriend filed for full custody. She filed as well. She can't even keep her on her own week.

Additionally, she started taking pictures of me, my car, my child, so I went to family court and filed a temporary restraining order against her. It held up during the adjournments, but yesterday was dismissed because the judge says family court doesn't have jurisdiction because I am not an intimate family member. I feed, clothe, provide shelter, and emotional support for this child. I treat her as my own. Her mother is the worst and now she is blaming me.

This is something that needs to be brought up, by him, to social services. Have them investigate the issue and they will decide whether she is a fitting parent and address the issue accordingly, which, (anyone feel free to correct me if I'm wrong) can be giving full custody to your boyfriend.

However I'm not entirely positive about the outcome, social services does need to be contacted though if she is as neglected as you say.

Well the judge ordered an ACS investigation. The initial report the child told them she was being left home alone& was scared. So they extended the order. But she was interviewed again on 5/31 & said her mom was not leaving her alone which was true because of the order. So yesterday in court the judge lifted the order because he said the mom wasn't leaving her home alone anymore. HELLO, that was because of the order, so I u lift it, what's protecting the child?

It just seems to me the court is favoring the mom just because she is a mom. No one is looking into what she is doing to the child. My boyfriends cries are falling on deaf ears.

It's a sad thing to say, but there might not be much that can be done, unless they allow the child to testify against the mother, but that's a whole different topic on it's own.

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That's exactly what the judge ordered, the child is testifying on Thursday

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Originally Posted by Mimi McDonald

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That's exactly what the judge ordered, the child is testifying on Thursday

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Perfect. I hope all is well and she is not terrified into saying things that are not true.

I wish you both the best of luck!

Be patient as while the courts are slow and dilberate, they eventually resolve this in the best interest of the child. I think everything will be taken into consideration so don't worry about this NUT smearing you. She sounds desperate and a bit unbalanced.

Good luck.