Hi, I had met this girl long back when I was in college. At that time I didn’t have anything on her but suddenly, we met again last year around the same time and started to know about each other. She was interested in me and we both had a good time together. She used to call me whenever she wanted to speak with me and everything went well. She had also agreed to get married to me, wanted me to ask her parents for her. I did agree and I was waiting for her to finish her degree.

But from last 2 or 3 months she is avoiding my calls, will not reply to my messages, etc. We didn’t have any good times together, as she doesn't wanted to meet me because she was afraid that someone might see us together. I am very serious about this relationship, so agreed to her. Now I don't know what has happened she is completely avoiding me. Though I have spoken with my parents regarding her and they are also OK with it, now I am in confusion, whether to let her go, or give her some more time so that she can come back.

Guys please help me out in this regard. Let me tell you that I love her a lot and don't want to miss her at any cost. I am completely lost, I love her a lot.

Let go buddy, don't make someone a priority in your life, if you're only an option in theirs. She's avoiding and ignoring you, so she clearly does not feel the same way, neither should you. Move on and continue with your life, there are plenty of fish in the sea my friend.

Thanks Cobra, I am also thinking to let her go. But my heart doesn't accepting it. That is my problem. I have decided not to speak and think about her, but I always do. :(

Think her parents have told her to leave you alone?

Hi talaniman, first of all thanks for your replay. Coming back, I don't think that because her father is a very good friend of mine (my father) and they know each other very well and he do have a very good opinion on me.

Have you consulted the olser guys (your father, or hers), about this matter? Are you from a culture that the females expect you to chase/fight for them? If she has changed her mind though, leave her alone as this is no way to treat someone.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Have you consulted the olser guys (your father, or hers), about this matter? Are you from a culture that the females expect you to chase/fight for them? If she has changed her mind though, leave her alone as this is no way to treat someone.

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I have not consulted both of them in this regard. We are no way from that culture where they have to chase for girls.

I think leaving her to realize what is it, would be the good idea. But I just want to know why is she doing like this. Without getting this ans my mind will not be resting in peace.

LOL guy, you will drive yourself crazy wonder why she has changed. She may not know herself. Maybe she is not ready to marry so soon. Maybe her feelings have changed. Maybe she wants to explore and experiment when she gets her degree. Maybe she is wrestling with feelings for another that have popped up.

We could pursue maybe forever, but acceptance of what she is doing is the path to peace while you await understanding. Patience instead of insanity. More is often revealed latter. LOL, count on this not being the only time you will have to find peace of mind without clear answers.