Broke up with girlfriend because I am not ready. Did I do the right thing?
I feel absolutely miserable today and have a huge gap in my life. Worst thing is this is one of the first times where I am directly responsible for it. After dating for 3 months, yesterday I broke up with my girlfriend. She has truly been a sweet girl and has done absolutely nothing to deserve it. I broke up for two reasons:
1. I am not sure if I am ready for a serious commitment, maybe in general, maybe with her specifically. This girl was marriage material and was sincerely happy with me every time she saw me. It breaks my heart to see how upset I've made her. I am 24 and when I go out with friends, we tend to flirt with other girls and have a fun time. Perhaps I can give it up for her, but I am afraid I will still miss living that bachelor lifestyle. I just moved to a new city a year ago after college and as you can imagine, there are all the things that come along with it, new friends, new money, constant parties, etc. On the other hand, I think that I may severely regret breaking up with her when I look back at it a few years from now, there aren't a lot of girls with the level of commitment that she had.
2. I never felt like I was in love with her yet. I enjoy spending time with her, but did not have that spark where I would consider saying I love you. Perhaps it was too early.
Based on this, do you think I have made the right decision by breaking up with her? She is leaving the country tomorrow for 3 months and I did not want to string her along waiting for me to make up my mind while she could be finding other guys while she is away. I initially told her I need these three months to think about things and did not want to string her along. She made a good point saying that if I am not sure about things now, what would change 3 months from now. So we are basically broken up.