Well, I am a 21 year old female and I have been having sex with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 years now. I have never had an orgasm with just vaginal intercourse but then again I'm not really sure. I can make myself have one, but when I'm with him, I can't. This is really sad because I am so young, you would think I would be having the time of my life. So now we live together and sex has gotten worse. He will put "it" in but I don't feel the sensations anymore. I bought a vibrator to use while having sex but it takes so long and makes me feel really bad for taking so much time. After like 10 times of trying, he is not even talking to me because I am so nervous about this sex issue. We are in love and very much open with each other, its just when I say no to sex, he gets kind of insensitive, which really makes me not "get in the mood". I'm sorry for making this lengthy, I just want to hear some opinions please.

First, you need to educate yourself on how females are satisfied. Most of them don't have an orgasm from vaginal penetration.

Please go to your public library and check out some informative books that you can find at 612.6. Or do a good Google search on the internet.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

First, you need to educate yourself on how females are satisfied. Most of them don't have an orgasm from vaginal penetration.

Please go to your public library and check out some informative books that you can find at 612.6. Or do a good Google search on the internet.

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Agreed.

On another note, try exploring your body. Find out what stimulation excites you and share what you've learned with him. Or better yet, set time aside to explore together. Don't just go about business as usual, dedicate the time to trying different things.

Anxiety (concerns that you cannot have a orgasm in the method you prefer) will also kill the mood. Simply relax and enjoy the atmostphere. From hearing manys' experiences, most orgasms knock on your door when least expected. In other words, lose yourself in the moment don't get caught up being determined to achieve one.

It is very common for ladies to take longer time to climax than men. Educate him also, so he understands and is not impatient (that's rude) with you.