Me and this girl have a complicated past. We are both in middle school and we have been friends since 7th grade. We really started to talk to each other in 8th grade. I have had a crush on her since 7th grade and she knew it because I told her. In 8th grade, we almost started dating but a week before I was going to ask her out (she didn't know this, I wanted to surprise her), she started to avoid me, so I tried to talk to her more, but then she was ignoring me. We would then be friends for about two days and then she would ignore me again, this went on for a month or so. After that, she hated me for some reason. I pray for someone to help me because the school year is almost over and I really want to resolve things by then. So please, if anyone has good advice to give me, don't be afraid to tell me.

Look this sounds stupid but just try and talk to her. People say that talking doesn't help but girls talk all the time. Why do you think we use the phone and take forever to get ready? We talk about this and that. Just sit down with her and talk to her and ask her what is going on. Maybe she is confused right now because she knows that you like her. But if you don't want to talk to her then forget it. But if it bothers you this much then talk about it

Ask her what the deal is face to face and directly. Since she knows how you feel, find out how she feels. If its just friends, then be prepared to accept it. If she has feelings like you do enjoy it. But never wander around in limbo wondering when you can just ask.

And she isn't your girl, you want her to be, but she isn't.

So what should I do if I already talked to her but she said she wanted a break and it's been like 4 months now?

Try and talk to her again and if she walks away or doesn't talk to you then ask one of her friends or try calling her or texting her. Do you guys have lockers? Leave a note in her locker and see what happens

Have a great summer without her. Plan on it!! 4 months is far to long to be thinking of going backward. You should be further down the road and be looking at better options.

Thank you for your advice, it will definitely help me in the long run.

How do you touch a girl's heart when she is mad at you?

So what are some ways to touch a girl's heart when she is mad? Because me and a girl were great friends but she started to avoid me, then ignore me, and now she hates me. After about 2 months I finally talked to her and she said she wanted a break from me. It's been about 2 months and nothing. Please, I really like her and our school is about 2 days from being over. What are some things I could say to her that would touch her heart? By the way, she is the kind of girl that runs away from her problems.

Well... you talked to her and she said she wants a break. Did she bother to tell you why? What you did? That might help us answer you better.

Well you see, I think it was because she thinks I talk behind her back but I don't. I'm really confused because I didn't really do anything to upset her.

When people can be upset for no reason, and make others suffer because of it, then they are out of control, and unreasonable. You cannot change them, and must recognize that nothing but conflict, and confusion can come from being around them.