I am always in the mood but my husband never seems to be in the mood anymore.. its been like this for a while now.I always have to be the one to come on to him and if I'm lucky, we will have sex 1 day out of the week.. he says he just doesn't feel like it.. says he has really no sex drive, but one day I caug t him watching porn.. one day I had a heart to heart about it with him and he swears its not me. Should I stay with him if he never seems to be turned on by me.. I an extremely miserable and feel like I am holding my breath for a change that will never happen.

Tell us more about your husband. What is his life like? Stress? Exhaustion? Medication? Drug use?

It sounds like he has a libido issue and we really need to figure out why that is.

As for the porn/maturbation thing. Don't worry about everyone does it.

[QUOTE=CravenMorhead;3136931]Tell us more about your husband. What is his life like? Stress? Exhaustion? Medication? Drug use?

It sounds like he has a libido issue and we really need to figure out why that is.

As for the porn/maturbation thing. Don't worry about everyone does it.[/QUOT
My husband is 34 years old... He has a pretty demanding job, but works good hours. He went from wanting sex all the time to hardly ever.. as far as we know there are no health problems, or medication use.. how ever he does drink about 3 rockstars a day... Last year he cheated on me of course he did not admit to it. I saw the text message between him and this chick on his phone... He swears he is not cheating anymore, and it only happened once.. of course I have forgiven him and I rarely bring it up... We do fight

[QUOTE=CravenMorhead;3136931]Tell us more about your husband. What is his life like? Stress? Exhaustion? Medication? Drug use?

It sounds like he has a libido issue and we really need to figure out why that is.

As for the porn/maturbation thing. Don't worry about everyone does it.[/QUOT
My husband is 34 years old... He has a pretty demanding job, but works good hours. He went from wanting sex all the time to hardly ever.. as far as we know there are no health problems, or medication use.. how ever he does drink about 3 rockstars a day... Last year he cheated on me of course he did not admit to it. I saw the text message between him and this chick on his phone... He swears he is not cheating anymore, and it only happened once.. of course I have forgiven him and I rarely bring it up... We do fight but not a lot.. I think this is why it hurts me so much when he turns tme down... And I often wonder if there is something wrong with me to want sex more than once a week.. thank u so much for you advice I really appreciate it.

No, there's nothing wrong with wanting sex more than once a week.

Is that your question?

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Tell us more about your husband. What is his life like? Stress? Exhaustion? Medication? Drug use?

It sounds like he has a libido issue and we really need to figure out why that is.

As for the porn/maturbation thing. Don't worry about everyone does it.

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My husband does have a busy work schedule.. but still has time to play games on his iPad.. ever

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]My husband does have a busy work schedule.. but still has time to play games on his iPad ever night.. he is in great health as far as we know.. and doesn't take any medications.. but he does drink 3-4 rockstars a day... And he smokes.. he swears his low sex drive has nothing to do with me.- but it really hurts my feelings when he says no to me. I get so sad and he really hates it when I get upset..

Thanks

I think the first thing that pops out at me is that he cheated and didn't admit it. First is how can you be sure? The second is how can you be sure he isn't already?

If you're snooping on his phone... he could know that and be withdrawing from you. Hence the lack of sex.

Also point of order. It takes a lot less to play video games on a iPad than it does to make love to a woman. That isn't a fair comparison.

It is really hard to say what is going on here. I think you need to have a serious discussion with him. Not another fight but a sit down adult conversation. No raised voices.