I've been with a girl for ten years I was young a didn't give her that much she cheated we broke up and she fell in with a guy that did every thing she wanted now were back together and she says during the 4 years they hung out she doesn't no we're he hangs out at is that a lack of love or does she not love me enough tell me what ever I need to no or does she need to make sure she can go back if needed but could she not know any thing please help and he does love her PLEASE HELP

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Originally Posted by Datdamboy

I've been with a girl for ten years I was young a didn't give her that much she cheated we broke up and she fell in with a guy that did every thing she wanted now were back together and she says during the 4 years they hung out she doesn't no we're he hangs out at is that a lack of love or does she not love me enough tell me what ever I need to no or does she need to make sure she can go back if needed but could she not know any thing please help and he does love her PLEASE HELP

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I think you are a sucker and she does too. And she's playing you for all its worth. I'm guessing you aren't all that old and haven't done much dating.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

I think you are a sucker and she does too. And she's playing you for all its worth. I'm guessing you aren't all that old and haven't done much dating.

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Why is that? And I'm 33

Because she treated you like crap... you still hung around like a lovesick puppy... then she fooled around... got tired of them... then you went crawling back to more of the same... then you still don't see the problem.

If she even loved you a little bit... she would not treat you like a floor mat. And NOBODY that loved you unconditionally would do that for certain... also... I'm not sure you understand what unconditional love is... because this most certainly isn't it.

Your pet dog offers unconditional love... its still there after you treat it bad. Treat her bad and see how long she sticks around. (The answer is not very long)

Yes I understand unconditional is not the word I'm wordering after they four years I feel like if you love me more you would tell me what ever I want to know about him but she says all she no is his name and birth date is she protecting him or could she not know any thing . It's more like if you love me more you would tell me whatever I need to know if I say its over she still won't tell is it possible for her to know any thing or is she protecting him

I meant could she not know any thing about him

Can you be with some one for 3 years and not know we're they hang out at

You are wasting your time and your life on a woman that doesn't care about you much less love you.

And actually... what happened during that time really is only your business if she feels like telling you about it.

Is it possible for her not to know any thing about him .and does it mean she loves him more than me

Are you listening to anything I said? She doesn't love you... she doesn't love him... she's making fools of both of you because you let her.

This all honestly makes me think of 14 and 15 year olds in what they think is a relationship. What is clear... is she is not acting like someone that even likes you all that much... and you are acting like you are desperate enough to take anything you can find... no matter how bad they treat you.

You will certainly NOT find happiness with this one...

I guess you cannot accept the fact she doesn't want to talk of her past ex at all with you so deal with it or leave her alone. You made a choice to get back with her after what YOU went through before so you can only accept her the way she is.

It won't last long if you keep pressing and come with the jealous insecure behavior. But what do you expect getting back with an ex who cheated on you before?