We broke up for a week and he called his ex wife and told her all of our business and then went over there until 5 in the morning drunk on a Friday she's remarried and at the time was 8 months pregnant. They have two children but said he was there for his daughter. Then went back the next two days. He swears he never cheated. For some reason I can't find it in my heart to stop thinking about what happened?

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Originally Posted by gemini528

We broke up for a week and he called his ex wife and told her all of our business and then went over there until 5 in the morning drunk on a friday she's remarried and at the time was 8 months pregnant. They have two children but said he was there for his daughter. Then went back the next two days. He swears he never cheated. For some reason I can't find it in my heart to stop thinking about what happened?

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You broke up... anything that happened after that wasn't cheating. SO for that entire week... he was a free agent and you have nothing to say... best get over it, because that's reality and life.

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Originally Posted by gemini528

We broke up for a week and he called his ex wife and told her all of our business and then went over there until 5 in the morning drunk on a friday she's remarried and at the time was 8 months pregnant. They have two children but said he was there for his daughter. Then went back the next two days. He swears he never cheated. For some reason I can't find it in my heart to stop thinking about what happened?

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Cheating? You guys broke up! If you broke up with him, or he broke up with you, he's no longer tied to you, and has the freedom to do whatever he wants, with whomever he wants.

Either accept the fact that you two had broken up, and he was a free man, and what he did in that time doesn't have anything to do with you. Or, obsess about it some more, break up with him again, and let him go.

You have no right to be upset about anything he did when he wasn't with you, even if that breakup was only for a week.

Actually its not the.fact if he cheated it's the fact he can call her just like that makes me feel like he still loves her..

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Actually its not the.fact if he cheated its the fact he can call her just like that makes me feel like he still loves her..

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What? Can you write that again? This post makes no sense.

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Originally Posted by gemini528

We broke up for a week and he called his ex wife and told her all of our business and then went over there until 5 in the morning drunk on a friday she's remarried and at the time was 8 months pregnant. They have two children but said he was there for his daughter. Then went back the next two days. He swears he never cheated. For some reason I can't find it in my heart to stop thinking about what happened?

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Read your own words again... #1. You broke up.. #2 whatever happened next is none of your business... #3. If you got back together what happened AFTER you got back together becomes your business...


What happened during that week in the middle is none of your business.

And quite honestly... until you are married... you don't have full spouse expectations or rights.

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Actually its not the.fact if he cheated its the fact he can call her just like that makes me feel like he still loves her..

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Okay, what's not the fact, that you broke up? You said you did. Which is it? Did you, or did you not break up for a week?

He didn't cheat. You can't cheat on someone you're not with, and if you broke up, you weren't with him. He could have had sex with half the women in the world and it's not cheating. You two weren't together!

You can't break up with someone and think that you still have the rights of someone he's dating. Once you break up, he's a free man, and you're a free woman. He can do whatever and whoever he wants.

So what's not a fact? I'd like to know.

I feel sorry for the poor guy... I see misery and despair in his future unless he wakes up and runs far far away. Because if for no other reason.. he has a child with his ex... and she is ALWAYS going to be in his life in some way as a result.