I'm a cougar as people call it but I've been with my ex for 4yrs and we broke up about 2 months ago. We have been through a lot together like his parents not liking the age difference but we were happy and they had to deal with it. Also we had three miscarriages and he's been a known cheater for sometime and I was stupid enough to deal with it and try to work things out even though he acted like it was OK that he did this and it never bothered him. He brung girls in our home when I went to work and in my bed an such so you'd think I would be able to move on really quickly but I can't shake him off! I mean we argued a lot and it was over his infidelity and his denyal. He left me on Easter after an argument an never came back. He broke up with me over text message and I was told he was sleeping with a girl that next day. He has a really good side of him and I've seen it, He is trying to be friends with me an still tells me he loves me because we been together for so long but it hurts me so bad knowing he doesent want me anymore. How do I move on? I'm a grown woman and I can't do this! I love him so much and he's an ! Please help me

If your boyfriend broke up with you over a text message and cheated on you, then ask yourself, " Why do you love him?" He's not even worth loving if he did those to you. Not to be mean, but you're kind of making a stupid mistake of still loving him, and not being able to let the a*shole go. Your ex had no good side to him. He was bad news all along. You should have broke up with him when you had a chance and told him the whole reason. You shouldn't had let him break up with you. God, that gives him all the credit.

My boyfriend broke up with me over Facebook. He had always flirted with his friends that were girls, but did I break up with him, no, 'cause I was so in love with him. I haven't been able to let him go ever since and now that he has a brand new girlfriend, I'm hurt and kinda jealous, because she's prettier than me, but now.. I met this guy. Who's sweet, nice, caring, and just adorable! He got my mind off of my ex. I'm so glad.

That's what you need to do. You're a grown woman. Believe me when I say that you are stronger than you think. On the inside especially. You are capable of anything. Believe in anything. Believe that you can do it. Don't give up until you got everything perfect. See another guy, it will take your mind off things. Hook up with another guy, and if you get your heart broken, say, " Whatever. I don't need him," and move on. It will be hard to move on, but eventually you will :)

You will never recover, not in 2 months especially if you still allow any contacts what so ever with this fellow.

If you are serious about moving on, get him completely out of your life, and expect recovery, and healing to take a lot longer than a few month. That's not enough to get four years of what you have gone through to be purged from your heart. Think a year, at least, and that's if you do the right things for yourself.

I wish you much luck, because I know you just want the pain to stop now. Wish it worked that way, but unfortunately it doesn't.

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Quit talking to him, and quit thinking about him, it's the first and hardest step of moving on, and the most important.