My boyfriend broke up with me last week. We dated for a year and I loved him, and up until that day he had told me he loved me. It came out of the blue for me. I have never felt so angry in my life. I felt hot and tingly, and then I said how could you do this to me, and I pushed him. I apologized the next day. I feel so ashamed for acting like that. I never have done that and am a loving person. It seems like a bad nightmare- that conversation, like I zoned out, and pushing him out of my room. What happened to me and why? Do I need professional help? I know you cannot be violent towards people. It makes me fear that if I have children one day, that could happen again. I am scared.

You don't need help. This is so normal. There is nothing wrong. It is your emotions you can't control them. It is OK to be angry about what you ex did. Everyone is normally angry when that happens. But there will be other people. And as for pushing him, that wasn't the smartest. It was smart that you apoliged though. If you a teenager which you prob are, its hormones. I don't think you would do that to a child. It was angry and that was it.

I wouldn't be inclined to think that the level of physical anger that you showed, means anything other than a knee-jerk reaction to a lightening bolt that hit right between the eyes.

It was an out of the ordinary major upset, and you lost it. Forgive yourself.

I can't think of too many people who haven't had a similar reaction to various things. I remember once at a mall, seeing a mother screaming because her child had somehow got his little head stuck between the rungs of a barrier- I was completely deranged at the security guard who didn't have a clue where to find some sort of tool to break the barrier. In a mall!!

Quick, unexpected anger toward a unique, unforseen sudden emotional blow, such as you experienced, which resulted in a push and out of character behaviour- means you're human, and, that you were remorseful means you learned something, and grew up a little bit that day. There will be more disappointments that will send you reeling emotionally, and you will handle yourself differently the next time.