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  • May 31, 2012, 12:27 PM
    teensportychick
    Best friend problems...
    Hey so I have a best friend and her name is Lexi. We are both freshman in high school and she is my first best friend since I started at this school, this year. She was dating this guy in our grade and there relationship has been on and off since seventh grade... They would always date for a month or so and then break up... They only kissed like three times and so it wasn't a very serious relationship... From the moment she introdused me to him I had always had a little crush on him and now they are broken up for good... She said she never wants to get back together with him and he never wants to either... So now her ex and I have been texting (not anything bad just a little flirting) and she asked if I liked him and at the time I didn't like him very much at all... like a really good friend... that was like a few weeks ago and now I like him a little more... and she asked me again... and I said a little... and now she won't talk to me won't look at me... I don't know what to do... and now she has other peole texting me calling me a lier and stuff... I don't know what to do!! Its her ex boyfriend and he has everything I want... just tell me what to do!! :'(
  • May 31, 2012, 12:46 PM
    Homegirl 50
    You made the choice to text flirt with your best friend's ex. Now you have to deal with the choice. My guess is you can continue to talk and most likely he will stop talking to you and go back to your friend or find someone else. It is also my guess that your best friend still likes him.
    My guess again, all this will probably blow over.
    Just be mindful of choices you make with boys. Leave the friend's ex alone.
  • May 31, 2012, 01:18 PM
    teensportychick
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    You made the choice to text flirt with your best friend's ex. Now you have to deal with the choice. My guess is you can continue to talk and most likely he will stop talking to you and go back to your friend or find someone else. It is also my guess that your best friend still likes him.
    My guess again, all this will probably blow over.
    Just be mindful of choices you make with boys. Leave the friend's ex alone.
    I know your right it is just hard and I want both of them... Do you have any advise for that?
  • May 31, 2012, 01:40 PM
    Homegirl 50
    You apologize to her. She may not except it but at least you tried. Are you sure this boy really likes you? You are only what 14? This will pass there will be other boys.
  • May 31, 2012, 01:44 PM
    soccerlover9121
    She obviously still likes him, even if it's just a little bit. I would ask her if she likes him, and if she wants you to stop texting him. Hopefully then she'll realize you're a trustworthy friend and understand that you like him because of his personality, not because you're acting like a bad friend. I would also make sure that if you and your crush do end up together that he's not just using you to make her jealous.
  • May 31, 2012, 01:45 PM
    teensportychick
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    You apologize to her. She may not except it but at least you tried. Are you sure this boy really likes you? You are only what 14? This will pass there will be other boys.
    I apoligized and then she made me tell him that there was never ever going to be a chance of us EVER doing anything... and I am pretty sure he likes me because he was sad... But your right it's a big high school... :/ I just haven't found anyone as nice as him...
  • May 31, 2012, 01:48 PM
    teensportychick
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by soccerlover9121 View Post
    She obviously still likes him, even if it's just a little bit. I would ask her if she likes him, and if she wants you to stop texting him. Hopefully then she'll realize you're a trustworthy friend and understand that you like him because of his personality, not because you're acting like a bad friend. I would also make sure that if you and your crush do end up together that he's not just using you to make her jealous.
    She said she still likes him but I just don't understand... then she started freaking out on me and said that friends don't date other friends ex's but I have had friends do that but I was moved on... it is just hard I guess...
  • May 31, 2012, 01:50 PM
    Homegirl 50
    You apologize, you didn't have to kiss her behind and tell him that. Friends don't do that.
  • May 31, 2012, 01:52 PM
    teensportychick
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    You apologize, you didn't have to kiss her behind and tell him that. Friends don't do that.
    I get that but now she won't even let me talk to him! :( Even if we don't like each other I still can't be friends with him... me and him were friends before and now she's is telling me that I cant? Is that OK?
  • May 31, 2012, 01:56 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Why does she control who you talk to? Why does she control who befriends you?
    That is not OK. You can talk to who you want. Friends don't do this. She is manipulating you.
  • May 31, 2012, 02:01 PM
    teensportychick
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    Why does she control who you talk to? Why does she control who befriends you?
    That is not OK. You can talk to who you want. Friends don't do this. She is manipulating you.
    That's how I feel I just can't lose her... What can I telll her that will make everything better? :'(
  • May 31, 2012, 02:11 PM
    soccerlover9121
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by teensportychick View Post
    She said she still likes him but i just dont understand....then she started freaking out on me and said that friends dont date other friends ex's but i have had friends do that but i was moved on....it is just hard i guess....
    Uggg! Don't you hate middle school and high school drama? Idk... everyone's different but she shouldn't be freaking out on you like that. I would tell her that you're not dating him, that you just like him. Does she like anyone else besides him.. Maybe if you could set her up with someone else then she wouldn't be as mad about you liking him

    Do you have any advice for me? An old crush/ex is being a complete jerk!
  • May 31, 2012, 02:18 PM
    teensportychick
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by soccerlover9121 View Post
    Uggg! don't you hate middle school and high school drama? Idk...everyone's different but she shouldn't be freaking out on you like that. i would tell her that you're not dating him, that you just like him. Does she like anyone else besides him..? Maybe if you could set her up with someone else then she wouldn't be as mad about you liking him

    do you have any advice for me? An old crush/ex is being a complete jerk!
    I hate drama! :P Lol!:) And she is SUPER pretty so I'm sure other guys like her... ill try to set her up with other people! :) And For your problem... I think you need to just stop talking to him and if he talks to you I think you just need to stand up for yourself and tell him what's up.. lol! :) If he is still being a jerk I think you need to tell one of your friends to talk to him... and you never know he might still have a thing for you... Idk how you feel about him but its possible
  • May 31, 2012, 02:21 PM
    soccerlover9121
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by teensportychick View Post
    I hate drama!! :P Lol!:) And she is SUPER pretty so im sure other guys like her...ill try to set her up with other people! :) And For your problem......I think you need to just stop talking to him and if he talks to you i think you just need to stand up for yourself and tell him whats up..lol! :) If he is still being a jerk i think you need to tell one of your friends to talk to him....and you never know he might still have a thing for you....Idk how you feel about him but its possible
    I don't even like him that much.. just some old drama from last year! :/
    I have a friend just like yours, she's really pretty and most of the guys love her! She's definitely one of my best friends but all the guys like follow her around!
    I hope things work out between you and your friend :)
  • May 31, 2012, 02:23 PM
    teensportychick
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by soccerlover9121 View Post
    I don't even like him that much..just some old drama from last year! :/
    I have a friend just like yours, she's really pretty and most of the guys love her! She's definitely one of my best friends but all the guys like follow her around! i hope things work out between you and your friend :)
    Thank you! :) And I hope your guy thing works out too:)
  • May 31, 2012, 02:32 PM
    Homegirl 50
    She has been your friend for how many months? This is a lot of middle school drama, by the end of summer both will probably be forgotten. Don't let this girl manipulate you. All of this will pass.
  • May 31, 2012, 02:35 PM
    n0la
    Your friend needs to accept the fact that other people are going to like him, and he's going to like other people..
    She's obviously just being jealous, and if she was a real friend she would let it go
  • May 31, 2012, 02:37 PM
    teensportychick
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    She has been your friend for how many months? This is a lot of middle school drama, by the end of summer both will probably be forgotten. Don't let this girl manipulate you. All of this will pass.
    We have been friends since basketball season so like 7 months... But I think I got it all worked put with her! :) Thank you soooooo much! :D It was nice venting to people that don't actually know me or her so this can't backfire on me! :)
  • May 31, 2012, 02:38 PM
    teensportychick
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by n0la View Post
    Your friend needs to accept the fact that other people are going to like him, and he's going to like other people..
    she's obviously just being jealous, and if she was a real friend she would let it go
    That's how I was feeling... :/ But I think it is all worked out now! :) Thank you though! :)

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