We've been together for quite a while now. We only recently in November moved in together and she's now 3 months pregnant. We argued most days but wasn't all day over silly things. She broke up with me 4 weeks ago and said she just didn't have the same feelings for me anymore. I love her and everyday I wake up or go to bed, all through the day I think about her and want her back.

She tells me just wanting to be friends but I don't think I could be friends not with the feelings I have for her. I'm just lost and don't know what to do or how to get her to come around to me again.

Are you the father of the baby? If you are I would suggest possibly waiting it out a little bit, women can get very emotional during pregnancy. However, maybe she really isn't, seems like only time will tell my friend.

Yeah I'm definitely the father. I have no Idea what to expect from pregnancys, everyone is saying its prob just her hormones because she's been stressed a lot lately. I just want to be there for here for the long run

I would probably have to say horomones too. Was the relationship good up until the pregnancy? Any problems? A good sign would be if she just all of a sudden during her pregnancy outbursted.

Best of luck my friend.

Yeah everything was fine just the odd arguments but nothing serious. She really has my head stuck up my rear end at the minute. Really think I should just not cantact her at all n when she contacts me for something other than the pregnancy I'll know then she's been missing me

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Yeah everything was fine just the odd arguments but nothing serious. She really has my head stuck up my rear end at the minute. Really think I should just not cantact her at all n when she contacts me for something other than the pregnancy I'll know then she's been missing me

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Just play it cool and respect her decision.

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She moved further away to live with family, any time I try to contact her she says she wants to just be friends but when I try to talk to her she is blunt with me. This makes me feel more depressed n lost than I already am. I want her to give me a another chance, she has given me a couple before but I really want to make things work and treat her the way she deserves, I want our baby to grow up with its mum n dad together being happy too.I am currently in counseling to help me cause I do have a bit of an attitude when it comes to arguing and stress, which was a big part in the separation. Any advice for me would be great, how could I let her see or make her feel things can work better than before?

You can make her do anything. Give her the space she wants, man up and be a father to that child and maybe she will see good in you, if there is any for her to see. If she can't, let her go and move on.

Relax guy, just make sure you help with what she needs for now, gas for doctor visits or meds she may need, through her family if need be. Drop the needy hurt guy crap though, that's as selfish as it gets when a female is pregnant, and all the focus has to be on her, and not your confused hurt feelings.

Trust me, if you put your best foot forward and be the solid rock attentive guy who thinks only of her in her time of need, that will impress her. Make sure she is all right often and NO MENTION OF THE RELATIONSHIP WHATSOEVER.

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when she contacts me for something other than the pregnancy I'll know then she's been missing me

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Do not look for romantic signs from her or signals she cares. NONE OF THAT. Be a friend, that's what she needs, not an immature selfish ex boyfriend who can't man up and handle his business.

I know you are inexperienced, and new to this pregnant female thing, but rule one is NEVER argue with them during this time, or demand or expect anything from them. You need the guidance of an older guy or female, that helps. And be extra nice to her MOM, and family.

Good luck guy, and stay in counseling and get into it, and enjoy this truly amazing life changing event. We all make mistakes our first time around. Just don't keep making them. Be great if you could share the experience with her first hand, so consider some lamaze classes.

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