My boyfriend has feelings for a another girl, but he said he wants to be with me. He said he wants to get rid of that feelings. We had a very loving relationship for more than 1 year.

Don't worry about it then, no need to overreact. Now if he starts continuing with his feelings and talking to her, or messaging her then you've got yourself a problem. For now, let it be.

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MY boyfriend says he loves me a lot,but he doesn't have sex feelings for me.he doesn't want me to leave him also,he says if I does that he will be alone forever.he says he want to have sex feelings for me again.please help.I have this relationship more than a year now,

Sex is important! Every one deserves it from a relationship. I know you might care about the guy a lot, but what the hell! Find yourself a relationship that satisfies you. This situation is totally unfair to you.

When you meet him go in a sexy look like semi nude and see what happen

Does your other thread have anything to with why he isn't interested in having sex with you? If he is interested in someone else then he may not have the same feelings for you that you both wish he did. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...rl-665118.html

I don't know how old either of you are and it doesn't matter. Sex is not a way to hold on to someone. Sex is not the way to fix a relationship.

Communicate with your boyfriend. Be certain that you are both in the relationship for the right reasons and that it is working for both of you. If it isn't, then you may be better friends than a couple.

Its normal to have crushes and attractions to others while you are committed to one. What matters most is how you act on those feelings. No reason for guilt or panic, the feelings for others fades after a while if you never cross the lines of good behavior.

How about some additional info like your ages, and how you know all this?

Then communicate, ask him why he doesn't feel like having sex with you? Maybe there is something you can improve. Ask always ask there is nothing to lose :)

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Sex is important! Every one deserves it from a relationship. I know you might care about the guy a lot, but what the hell! Find yourself a relationship that satisfies you. This situation is totally unfair to you.

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Sex is not "important" in a relationship. Sex is something two couples do to create life, start a family and begin to raise a child. The persona sex is given today is that it's an activity for pleasure, that is not it's true meaning, no matter how much society has molded it into the norm.

If he came clean himself, then he is wanting things to work with you, be supportive. If he gets distant and start fading away it is time to call it quits, no need to involve yourself with someone who is not going to be with you 100%.

We are 25 years old,He says he really wants to be with me and he wanted to get rid of the feelings about that other girl,How can he get rid of that feelings... please help me.they both work at the same office.is this type of things happens to guys usually?

You haven't talked and resolved this since May/June/August/September? That it has lasted this long has me worried that this is no longer the solid relationship it was, and maybe you should get away from him for a while. Do you live together?

What's been going on the past few months between you two?

Well try to make his feelings go away.. you're a girl c'mon..

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well try to make his feelings go away.. your a girl c'mon..

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I am sorry but it is not up to the op to 'make his feelings go away.' He has to handle his feelings by himself. He needs to sort out his emotions and decide who he wants to be with and who he wants to let go. Frankly, he shouldn't be with either of them until he gets his act together.

She has to decide on her own what she is willing to put up with and what she absolutely refuses to allow to affect her life. Either she stays with him and tries to support him as he works through his feelings or she decides to let him and his confusion go.

Ayesha, I would suggest stepping away from all of the confusion. Obviously, staying and hoping he is ready to let his feelings for the other female go isn't working. There will probably always be doubt about in your mind about whether he is 'over' her or not as long as they have any contact which they will have as long as they work together. If you cannot work through this and let it go on your end then insecurities are going to grow. This female may end up being history, but it won't stop concerns about the next one from occurring.