I am a 13 year old girl suffering from anxiety, depression, and blackouts (and I don't drink). I really hate my parents because they constantly fight with me. When something doesn't go their way I am 1 yelled at 2 punished or 3 both. Then when I try to break up their fights with my bro or other family members they yell at me. Next when I do something because of my brother they tell him not to do it again (and normally he goes back to doing it and they don't care!) I get yelled at and the say "Jessica, grow up!" Or "be the bigger one!" Regardless of me doing the right thing of getting them to make my bro stop instead of doing something like beating him. Last year the fights and yelling was so bad that I wanted someone to kill me but that was not an option and will never be an option because of my boyfriend who loves me very much and my friends who have became my true family in my heart. My parents are judgemental and will make innaproprate jokes or reefer to my friends as "the fat one" or "the midget" instead of being appropriate and saying something else about them or finding a better way to describe them that doesn't sound offensive. They also hate my friends that know people that they don't like or only have 1 parent or parents are divorced. I think that's a little excessive and unfair and I'm scared that they might physically abuse me and I also hate to come home from school or from a friends place... please tell me I have a chance... :'(

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Originally Posted by Roxsoul13

I am a 13 year old girl suffering from anxiety, depression, and blackouts (and I don't drink). I really hate my parents because they constantly fight with me. When something doesn't go their way I am 1 yelled at 2 punished or 3 both. Then when I try to break up their fights with my bro or other family members they yell at me. Next when I do something because of my brother they tell him not to do it again (and normally he goes back to doing it and they don't care!) I get yelled at and the say "Jessica, grow up!" Or "be the bigger one!" Regardless of me doing the right thing of getting them to make my bro stop instead of doing something like beating him. Last year the fights and yelling was so bad that I wanted someone to kill me but that was not an option and will never be an option because of my boyfriend who loves me very much and my friends who have became my true family in my heart. My parents are judgemental and will make innaproprate jokes or reefer to my friends as "the fat one" or "the midget" instead of being appropriate and saying something else about them or finding a better way to describe them that doesn't sound offensive. They also hate my friends that know people that they don't like or only have 1 parent or parents are divorced. I think that's a little excessive and unfair and I'm scared that they might physically abuse me and I also hate to come home from school or from a friends place.... please tell me I have a chance... :'(

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You know fights don't happen in a vacuum... I bet you are the instigator in a large portion of them... you aren't the first teenager that thought they knew everything... and you won't be the last. Seriously read what you just wrote... if that was someone YOU didn't know what would you think?

Think its rough now... just wait until you are on your own and an adult... and you get fired from your job for smarting off to a boss... or arrested for causing trouble with a neighbor... you really better get the attitude in check in the next 5 years or you are going to be in for one heck of a hard time in life. You have it easier now than you will ever have it.

A big part of growing up is learning to suck it up and live with the fact life is never fair... and you only are entitled to what you have earned and paid for. Nobody likes the malcontent in the room... and the resident troublemaker quickly find themselves alone anyplace they go. And the biggest lesson... there are TWO sides to every story.

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Originally Posted by smoothy

You know fights don't happen in a vacuum.....I bet you are the instigator in a large portion of them...you aren't the first teenager that thought they knew everything...and you won't be the last. Seriously read what you just wrote....if that was someone YOU didn't know what would you think?

Think its rough now....just wait until you are on your own and an adult....and you get fired from your job for smarting off to a boss.....or arrested for causing trouble with a neighbor....you really better get the attitude in check in the next 5 years or you are going to be in for one heck of a hard time in life. You have it easier now than you will ever have it.

A big part of growing up is learning to suck it up and live with the fact life is never fair...and you only are entitled to what you have earned and paid for. Nobody likes the malcontent in the room...... and the resident troublemaker quickly find themselves alone anyplace they go. And the biggest lesson.....there are TWO sides to every story.

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Here is the thing... this has been goingn on for years. I have to deal with this every day... and

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Originally Posted by smoothy

You know fights don't happen in a vacuum.....I bet you are the instigator in a large portion of them...you aren't the first teenager that thought they knew everything...and you won't be the last. Seriously read what you just wrote....if that was someone YOU didn't know what would you think?

Think its rough now....just wait until you are on your own and an adult....and you get fired from your job for smarting off to a boss.....or arrested for causing trouble with a neighbor....you really better get the attitude in check in the next 5 years or you are going to be in for one heck of a hard time in life. You have it easier now than you will ever have it.

A big part of growing up is learning to suck it up and live with the fact life is never fair...and you only are entitled to what you have earned and paid for. Nobody likes the malcontent in the room...... and the resident troublemaker quickly find themselves alone anyplace they go. And the biggest lesson.....there are TWO sides to every story.

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Here is the thing... this has been goingn on for years. I have to deal with this every day... and I just want the yes or no answer so ik weather to call for a foster home, or a consular and medical help. I can handle myself and my friends say I need help as well as I do. So please just answer so ik what to do...

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Originally Posted by Roxsoul13

Here is the thing... this has been goingn on for years. I have to deal with this every day... and I just want the yes or no answer so ik weather to call for a foster home, or a consular and medical help. I can handle myself and my friends say I need help as well as I do. So please just answer so ik what to do...

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I told you what to do... and at 13... no you can't handle yourself... you only THINK you can.

You think you have it bad now... just wait until you end up in a foster home where they are paid to take care of you and don't have to put up with your crap. And yes I can tell that from everything you have said so far... and yes I've known a lot of people EXACTLY like you... and some others that really did get abused... not just think they were. And no... YOU don't get to make that choice... you are more likely to end up in Juvenal Hall (kiddy prison where you will have a lot of fun with bigger kids that really like to dish out abuse) instead of Foster care.

What you are in need of is an attitude readjustment... and not a living arraignment adjustment. Because at no point in your life is everything going to be on your terms... you have to adjust to deal with life on ITS terms... and its not too late yet... you haven't hosed things up so bad they can't be fixed. But if you continue down this road that day will be coming sooner than you think.

And if you actually believe that when you are an adult you get to do everything you want whenever you want... you are going to be in for one hell of a shock. I'm 50 and I STILL have to do a lot of things every day I don't want to do or even like to do... and by most peoples standards I'm quite successful.

You are pretty astute, Smooth - "Roxy" has MAJOR attitude. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/foster...re-578907.html - like her attitude here isn't bad enough.

I agree - juvenile hall is the only solution for someone who hates her parents.

Well, Trailer parks need residents... and someone needs to muck out the sewers with a shovel... I see that in their future if they continue down that road. Assuming they don't make the mistake of wizing off to someone with an even bigger attitude problem than they have that might turn them into a statistic on the evening news before then.

You know they need a foster home, I can pick out a dozen here in Atlanta, no TV for the kids, the kids have to work most of the evening talking care of the smaller kids in foster care.
They are yelled at for no reason, not for a reason you can see just don't agree with.

There is nothing extra since you are a income to them. And threats of being hurt at school is not a threat, beatings and even worst happen daily at many of the inner city schools.

Next in foster care you will be taken often away from any time and friends.

Might foster care or juvie hall include "encouraging" someone to learn proper punctuation, spelling, the use of nouns and pronouns, present, past and future tense?