Originally Posted by
WisperWill70
Just remember the common theme in all the responses to all the threads --- is:
For you to feel better, for you to grow stronger, working on your feelings about yourself and your NEEDS (making him responsible for your feelings, whether you're happy or sad) Will TOTALLY help this situation! If you're not coming from "need" you won't swing between avoiding and crazy clinging attachment. You'll feel strong about yourself because YOU are responsible for your feelings and changing you :)
Focus on you: that means -- think about what you are thinking about 24/7 -- is it him? Is that really loving to yourself? Keeping yourself stuck and defining yourself by whether this guy likes/loves you? No that won't do. For your relationships to get better, your relationship to yourself needs some improving. Allowing yourself to turn your attention to what immediately needs your energy and what you need in order to be happy and healthy is a priority. Choose to be happy for YOU ... not to get him back. Do other things, things, you like, encourage yourself to live and not wait around.
Good luck ! Take each day one tiny bite at a time.