I have to bring the topic up. I do all the work. In just a few minutes he comes . I do not get my release. What is the problem?

As is good etiquette, the woman always comes first ;)

What Curlyben said... start telling him YOU get yours before he gets his... if you haven't said anything yet to him... do it... if you have and he doesn't care... do what I said... that will get his attention.