Ask Me Help Desk - I'm too jelous

I'm too jelous

I have been dating a girl for 2 years now,this girl is different than any other before,since I love this girl with whole my heart.And everything is perfect in our relationship.I am very curious person and I know everything about her,even the fact that she slept with 4 guys before me,and that fact is killing me.I have no idea what is going on but I feel the enormous amount of anger when I think about those guys,I know 2 of them in person.I feel like if I ever meet any of them I'm going to go berserk on them.I know I will,I even started imagining and dreaming about beating them into a bloody pulp.This is first time in my life I have ever felt this way,I had many girls but I never even was curious about her past life or cared about anything really.I know this kind of behavior is not normal,if anyone has expirienced anything like this or has any type of advice how to suppress this feeling or cancel it completely please help me,I don't want to go crazy or do anything I will regret later on.

This is not normal behavior, but I'm sure you know that. You imagine and dream about beating her ex-boyfriends into bloody pulps? Does she know this? This would be a relationship-breaker for me.

I would suggest therapy. This is a form of jealousy and it will only get worse.

I think you need to do some counseling and leave your girl friend alone. Personally I would not trust you to not take your anger out on her. This cannot be very pleasant for her.

You have issues that need to be taken care of with therapy. There is no reason for you to have such desire to hurt her ex boyfriends that were there before you. Maybe you just need to grow up a little. They were there BEFORE you... get it? Why is that such a problem?

Therapy.

I didn't say HE isn't normal. I said his BEHAVIOR isn't normal. I don't believe most people dream/fantasize about beating their partners' ex-partners into bloody pulps.

My advice is therapy -

dericdomino, Judy did give advice. She advised therapy. What have you advised?

Lol,I would never hurt my girl,that's crap.I tought about therapy too,I don't want to feel this,but its just the way it is.I never told her anything about that. And I understand they were there before me,yet it eats me up from the inside for some reason.I will definitely take some therapy. Tnx for advices

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Originally Posted by omegamyo

Lol,i would never hurt my girl,thats crap.i tought about therapy too,i dont want to feel this,but its just the way it is.i never told her anything about that. and i understand they were there before me,yet it eats me up from the inside for some reason.i will definitly take some therapy. tnx for advices

And if the day comes when she's no longer "your girl," what then? Do you dream about beating her up?

I hope therapy isn't an empty promise.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

And if the day comes when she's no longer "your girl," what then? Do you dream about beating her up?

I hope therapy isn't an empty promise.

Then nothing,I see no reason for her to dump me,we are together for 2 years,and its not like it can end tomorrow after all the things we been trough together,it would need really strong reason like cheating.And I am not some to beat women,only weaklings do so in my opinion.

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Originally Posted by omegamyo

Then nothing,I see no reason for her to dump me,we are together for 2 years,and its not like it can end tomorow after all the things we been trough together,it would need really strong reason like cheating.And I am not some to beat women,only weaklings do so in my oppinion.

Trust me, it can end tomorrow.