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  • May 25, 2012, 05:01 PM
    josiepuppy123
    What do I do if my best friends and I like the same guy??
    Me and my best friends both like the same guy and we think he likes us both.I don't want to get in a huge fight with her because she's my favorite friend.and neither of us want to ask him if he likes me best or my best friends best.we both think he's reslly cute and we both think he likes us!once me and my best friends went on for almost an hour fighting about it :( I don't want to do that again.
    OK I think he likes me because he always smiles and helps me with a really hard thing that I have to do and once when we were partly alone he took me in the corner of the room and he was going to ask me something but someone saw us and yelled at us.
    My best friends thinks that he likes her because he basically winks at her and smiles at her but they have no really special memories like me and him
    Main question:who does he like me or my friend?is he just being nice to us? Why is he doing this to both me and my friend?
  • May 25, 2012, 05:25 PM
    Cristi-Lovee-1D
    OK so who ever said they like him first should date him ( my best friend and I had the same fight but always remember sisters before misters)
  • May 25, 2012, 05:29 PM
    josiepuppy123
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Cristi-Lovee-1D View Post
    ok so who ever said they like him first should date him ( my best friend and i had the same fight but always remeber sisters befor misters)
    Thanks but she won't tell me when she first started to like him what should I do about that?? and you really helped me maybe she will tell me but if she doesn't what should I do
  • May 25, 2012, 05:41 PM
    josiepuppy123
    Boys and BFFs
    I need to know how to get out of a really hard situation
    My boyfriend is making me go with him almost every day and I'm kind of losing my best friend to him and I don't want tha to happen oh and I don't want to break up with him because he's the captin of the wrestling team and I like my face where it is I don't want it on my back or stomach. What do I do??
  • May 25, 2012, 05:54 PM
    Cristi-Lovee-1D
    If you don't like him anymore brake up with him or you can ask him for a little time to be with your besties ( he must have friends to )
  • May 25, 2012, 05:55 PM
    DoulaLC
    Your boyfriend is "making" you go? How is he making you go? Why don't you just tell him that you want to spend some time with your best friend too?

    I'm not quite sure what "not having your face on your back or stomach" means? Does it have anything to do with him getting angry and physically abusive? If so, that is a major red flag and there is simply no reason whatsoever that you should involve yourself with a guy like that. Captain of the wrestling team or no captain. What does that really matter? Are you dating him for some sort of status of him being the captain of the team? Would you be dating him if he wasn't?

    What do you think he would say if you told him that you and your friend were going to go to a movie next Friday night? Would he tell you that you couldn't go? Would he threaten to break-up with you? Would he get mad and pout that you weren't with him? Would he yell at you and possibly threaten you?

    If any of those are possible, why would you want to be with someone like that? You have the right to spend time with your friend if you want to. Certainly he wants to see you as well, but there are enough days/nights in the week to spend time with both.

    I can assure you, when it comes down to it, no guy is worth losing your best friend over. Truly best friends will be around a long time. Some guy you are dating most likely won't be.

    If you feel that he has too much control over what you can do, than you need to stop and give some very careful thought to whether you want to be with someone like that.

    If you only think he would be upset, but don't know for sure, then tell him you are going to spend the day with your friend and find out what his response is. That may tell you a great deal whether this is the type of relationship you really want to be in.
  • May 25, 2012, 06:06 PM
    josiepuppy123
    I didn't know how mean he was until he started losing almost all his friends so he had to start hanging out with me. Thanks guys you both are right ill try that and see what he says thanks so much
  • May 25, 2012, 06:16 PM
    DoulaLC
    Well if you already know that he is really mean, then why would you even want to date him?? That doesn't make any sense!

    Hmmm, captain of wrestling team (big deal) but he is mean (not a nice person), has lost his friends (even his friends don't want to be around him), makes me go with him almost every day (controlling), is causing me to lose my best friend (putting a guy before your friend who has been there for you), kind of scared of him and how he may act (don't know if he could get mad enough to hurt me). Does that about sum it up?

    Just end the relationship now. It's not worth the worry and drama. Tell him that you decided that you don't want to be in a relationship with anyone now; that you just want to have fun with your friends. Then count your blessings that you got away from him.
  • May 25, 2012, 07:20 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    He makes you, and you are scared of him, sorry but why is he even a boyfriend, sounds like you need to break up with him
  • May 25, 2012, 08:10 PM
    Homegirl 50
    How old are you?
    If you are being abused your parents need to know and you need to break up with him yesterday.
  • May 25, 2012, 08:17 PM
    Homegirl 50
    He could be playing you both. Does he know you two are best friends? I think you both should leave him alone.
  • May 26, 2012, 04:09 AM
    josiepuppy123
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by DoulaLC View Post
    Well if you already know that he is really mean, then why would you even want to date him??? That doesn't make any sense!

    Hmmm, captain of wrestling team (big deal) but he is mean (not a nice person), has lost his friends (even his friends don't want to be around him), makes me go with him almost every day (controlling), is causing me to lose my best friend (putting a guy before your friend who has been there for you), kind of scared of him and how he may act (don't know if he could get mad enough to hurt me). Does that about sum it up?

    Just end the relationship now. It's not worth the worry and drama. Tell him that you decided that you don't want to be in a relationship with anyone now; that you just want to have fun with your friends. Then count your blessings that you got away from him.
    OK that helps a lot.
  • May 26, 2012, 04:13 AM
    josiepuppy123
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    How old are you?
    If you are being abused your parents need to know and you need to break up with him yesterday.
    I don't have parents they dies when I was 12.I live with my grandfather and he's about to die too so I have no one to go to. I already when to the principal (im 14 still in middle school)an they did absaloutly nothing she are too scared of him too.
  • May 26, 2012, 05:19 AM
    josiepuppy123
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    He could be playing you both. Does he know you two are best friends? I think you both should leave him alone.
    He knows.ive known him since we were both 2 years old he would never do that to me because I've been there for him when anythinghappened.he would only change if something really bad happened
  • May 26, 2012, 07:13 AM
    Homegirl 50
    Dear is he would hit you, be mean to you, he certainly would think nothing about playing you and your best friend against each other.
    You need to leave this boy alone. He sounds like bad news.

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