Im getting ready to move in with my boyfriend and I am worried because we do not have intercourse but once a month. He is cross dressing and wantsto watch tranny porn and masterbate. Now he wants to find a shemale to invite over because he wants anal sex. I have tried anal on him and I am just not into it. He said he is not gay but I am thinking he is some what bi. A shemale is just that, it's a man that has gone to the expence to look like a woman and a very good looking woman... but its still a man if he has a penis. It's a real turn off when my man dresses like a woman I feel very strange. What to think and what to do when you love a man with a great heat. Im very confused and must decide if I can stay in this relationship.

MS

He is at least bi, and my guess gay but wants to appear straight, even so it is obvious your sexual desires and wants do not match his and it will only get worst ?

You want to watch him having sex with someone else ?

Not to mention what STD are possible when you start having multiple partners

If you don't share his fettish... (you say it's a turn off for you) then you will be doing yourself a favor by cutting your losses now and leaving.

You know what sort of things he likes... you know what sorts of things you don't like...

He may be a great guy otherwise (I don't know him).. but if you don't share enough interests a relationship is a waste of time...

Not that it matters but is this in the US? If he has sexual practices which are a turn off to you now what makes you think they won't be a bigger turn off when you're living with him? You may or may not know the extent of what he's doing. He wants to have anal sex with another man with you watching? Is that your "thing"?

And anything he catches he brings home to you - even if intercourse is once a month.

I'm curious to know why you aren't running for the hills, loving him or not loving him, if what he wants to do is a turnoff?

My BF is a closeted bi guy. He's been married a few times has a few kids too. But a few times a year he like to hook up with a man. I am not overly thrilled that he can't find satisfaction just with me, but it is a big turn on for me. His family does not know about his tendencies at all. I do him with a strap on and he loves it, so do I actually. To look at him, he is very masculine. But if he needs to do this type of thing occasionally well then so be it. He wants me to hook up with another female so he can watch, I have absolutely NO desire to do that ever! It does nothing for me at all! Now I do love to look at gay porn, now that is a big turn for me. My point in all of this, is , do what makes you feel comfortable. The first sign that you are having doubts, GET OUT of that relationship, pronto!

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Originally Posted by brneyes

Im getting ready to move in with my boyfriend and I am worried because we do not have intercourse but once a month. He is cross dressing and wantsto watch tranny porn and masterbate. Now he wants to find a shemale to invite over because he wants anal sex. I have tried anal on him and I am just not into it. He said he is not gay but I am thinking he is some what bi. A shemale is just that, its a man that has gone to the expence to look like a woman and a very good looking woman...but its still a man if he has a penis. It's a real turn off when my man dresses like a woman I feel very strange. What to think and what to do when you love a man with a great heat. Im very confused and must decide if I can stay in this relationship.

MS

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Dump his ()

Him being gay, or gender questioning isn't as important as what YOU feel about that. If you don't want a bisexual, cross-dressing or possibly transsexual boyfriend/mate - then you're heading in the wrong direction. Respect his sexual desires and your own by not getting involved in something that turns you off.

In my opinion, not only may this guy be bisexual... he may have his own gender identity issues. It's common for people who are questioning their gender (am I transgender?) to experiment with "shemale" porn and cross dressing as they try to understand themselves. He may also be a bisexual man who likes to cross dress and wants to have sexual experiences with other men ---

None of that matters - if it's uncomfy for YOU- get out!