Hi all , my story has stated before 9 months , lesbian girl fall in love with me , we meet in Facebook , my words about many subject attract her , then she add me as her friends , before she add me I don’t know that she is lesbian actually I'm don’t know there was lesbian world but when we more we chat become know her very well like many walls fallen I am only one who sees throw this wall ,so she become more love with me she joined the school because of me and her life change but I am still straight , she want marry me but I reject , then she told me that she love girl before she meet me and she not feel in love with her never but she told me that I learned her what love mean so she is grateful to me that she fall in love with her girl and now she want marry her but she is totally change toward me now because I know we stated chat with each other for long time but 5 months she is totally change ,many times I send to her messages but she doesn’t answer ,she told me that I am not change I am still straight girl and she still want me but I don’t want her as my love just friend and she told me that I am trying change her to straight girl and she fight for that but she failed and now she find another friend rather me she told her everything so what I can do to let her know I don’t want lose her as friend.

Seems to me like you already have lost her as a friend, but it doesn't seem like friendship is what she's after. From the very start she was into you, and now that she can't have you she's moved on. So should you.

Yes I think that also but she is message me after mother and there was like missing parts in her message like ( god put you in my way because I believe one thing that me and you we will... then she went to another subject ,and she told me that I am very strong minded ans she not afraid to speak but I know she is not like past months but she always told me that she want me as friend but I feel distant ز

Not knowing her makes it hard for me to judge whether she does want to be your friend still or not, but if she makes you feel distant there's no harm in letting go, you don't have to completely forget, or be rude to her and ignore her, but just continue on. If she messages you and talks to you great, but sweetheart, don't make someone a priority in your life, if you're only an option in theirs.

Best of luck!

Many people, straight, gay or lesbian misunderstand what others do or say. They start to believe or desire something that is not real or can not be. They mistake a word or a smile for romance and love.

Also this sounds like a long distant, you said, "loved" you before she meet you, could this have been some dating scam perhaps and they hoped to get money even?

It is over, you did not want her as a lover, she wanted more, let it go.

Maybe it is time to let her go although I know her way is wrong , I just want better for her and I am a friad when she want my advice not find me as her friend

True friend stay with his/her friend even tough situation actually because of that I am afried not be true friend

Find other friends, this one is no interested in the friendship, and what she is interested in you are not willing to give.

she told me before a month that she want just my friendship rather nothing in her life , and she has always hope and faith to meet each other because she consider me as equation in her life like one solve this equation , and I know she want change her self to be bisexual because of that she lost her balance between me and her .

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maybe it is time to let her go although i know her way is wrong , i just want better for her and i am a friad when she want my advice not find me as her friend

true friend stay with his/her friend even tough situation actually because of that i am afried not be true friend

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Please - true friends don't get hurt by other people and then stay in the relationship because of "true friendship."

Just cutting to the chase - were you involved in a lesbian relationship with her?

No never involved in relationship with her because I don't like that idea never , I just want the best for her way and lead her to right way and iknow she is hurt every day , but now I know she want marry girl and I told her I stand by you all these months to lead her to right way but she told me that she know who is she .

It seems she's made her feelings very clear - she intends to marry her girlfriend. I don't think you fit into her life any longer.

Friendships begin, end, falter, become strong again - and some never recover.

I'd leave her alone.

If she's met someone else this is good and a reasonable reason to disconnect from you as she gets involved in other things. She may say she wants your "friendship" because that's better than nothing at all but this still doesn't change the fact that you have different feelings for each other and hence, she doesn't feel friendship only needs/wants you can't fulfill. Though it's painful to lose any friend --- this one may not have been meant to be if it wasn't truly BOTH of you on the same page about being friends.

Also I didn't understand your English... (so this may be a misunderstanding) there should be no reason for you to encourage her to be a straight or bi-girl to be your friend...
Let it go.

I also don't see how the other person being Lesbian has anything to do with anything. That's offensive and would be no less offensive if any other group were in the title.

She's a lesbian. She doesn't want to be your friend. It would be no different if she were from Mars and didn't want to be your friend. Who she is has nothing to do with this.

People come and go through our lives often, some stay longer than others, but its understandable for some one to cut contact when their dreams of sex and romance has fallen short, and they have to regroup.

Healing requires some distance between the cause of emotional pain, and this is true of all of us, no matter gender, or sexual preference. Or religious affiliations. Friendships, especially on line, or long distance ones, are often interrupted by closer, more personal options for face to face romance.

I wouldn't dwell on your feeling distant from her, as it likely will happen again with others. Just let go and focus on what you do with your own life, because she is the only one who can explain her actions. Who knows maybe in the future you can clear this up face to face, or whatever.

I know what you are saying it is true , but when I am go away from her she send me short message like ( you are still in my thoughts , you are not forgetting ) , but I know we chat with each other maybe just one message in month or 2 months and she want me in her life because she learned a lot from me and back to school.. but now I feel cold in this friendship and I don't care any more .

Then stop worrying and talking about it and move on.