My good friend and fiancé hate each other, can it work?
I've been with my Fiancé for 7 years, we got together when we were teens and in the beginning of our relationship it was really rocky. He cheated and so did I because I felt betrayed. But now we are at a better place, and with some time and maturing we have decided we really do love each other and want to be with each other. We've been in a good place for the last couple years and have been happier than ever.
After initially meeting him I made friends with my now best friend. She was there when I found out he had cheated and was there for me during the "downs" in my relationship. Now the issue is every time we fight she brings back the fact that I'm still with him and throws it in my face. She not only says disrepectful things about him, but more importantly, she demeans me for still being with him.
Recently me and her got in an explosive fight and she had really went in on me and him. Previously when she would say things about him he would just shrug it off and state "that's your friend not mine" or "I'm sorry I ever did anything to give her a reason to talk about be". This is the first time my boyfriend has commented on the way she spoke about him. He got upset at the fact his name always gets dragged in our arguments.
I love them both but both of them only see the times the other is hurting me and I don't know how to balance the two.
Help! Will I be able to make this work or will I have to let one go?