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Is my boyfriend gay?

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months now. The sex is good. Recently he told me that he'd like it if I finger his a**, lick it, and maybe use a dildo on him. He also wants me to pee on him...

Is this normal for guys? Or is this weird? Has anyone experienced/or is experiencing this? I don't have a problem doing any of that stuff, I know the guys g-spot is located in the prostate anyway.

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Originally Posted by jarena

he told me that he'd like it if i finger his a**, lick it, and maybe use a dildo on him. He also wants me to pee on him...

Is this normal for guys? ...

This is not common among men. Seems to me strange that this is the first time, after seeing him for 9 months, that you've noticed something different about him.

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Originally Posted by jarena

I know the guys g-spot is located in the prostate anyways.

That is not true.

Clearly you have a lot to learn about men and relationships. Jarena, if you don't have a problem with licking/tasting feces, then go for it... but if you're looking for a meaningful relationship, then stick with guys who care about YOU and what YOU want.

Tasting feces? I said nothing about that.

And I know plenty about men. The male g-spot IS located in the prostate.

http://allwomenstalk.com/finding-the-male-g-spot/

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Originally Posted by Jarena

Tasting feces? I said nothing about that.

And i know plenty about men. The male g-spot IS located in the prostate.

http://allwomenstalk.com/finding-the-male-g-spot/

I am sorry. I did not realize that you knew so much about men. Makes me wonder why you are asking the questions that you did.

As for the issue of "fingering": finger your own anus and then lick it to see if you don't agree with me: You'll be tasting feces.

We will have to agree to disagree about the "male g-spot".

I sincerely hope that you find the man of your dreams - one that will love and respect you until death do you part.

I asked so I could get different opinions from people.

Also, there are such things as enemas.

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Originally Posted by Jarena

I asked so I could get different opinions from people.

It's good that you are asking. My answers are just opinions, and I truly wish the best for you.

Thank you very much!

Jarena you are correct, the male G-spot IS in fact located at the prostate in the male anus. Now, there's nothing wrong AT ALL with your boyfriend wanting to try anal, some people enjoy experimenting and trying new things. I for one, wouldn't mind trying it with my girlfriend, it isn't on my immediate to do list though, but I would try it.

Don't be scared, you should actually feel happy, that he is open and comfortable enough with you to bring this up. Most guys probably would not. If he begins wanting nothing but that and starts ignoring your needs and ignored satisfying you. Then it becomes an issue. Take it step by step.

Best of luck!

Many men enjoy anal stimulation. This has nothing to do with being straight or gay. It's pleasurable and YES there is a male "g spot" (stimulation of the prostate - which some men really like) Anal "rimming", fingering, and "pegging" (woman uses a dildo) are all activities that a lot of straight couples enjoy. Lots of women also enjoy anal stimulation as well.

There's no one reason to like a sexual activity that applies to everyone so there's no way to say whether your boyfriend is gay or "weird" (using kinky sex to alienate) -- the only way you'll know what anal stimulation means to HIM (is it because he just likes that feeling or because he wants to be with a man) means you need to keep open lines of communication.

The peeing request is more rare --- but not unheard of. As with everything in life... you have to do what is comfortable for you. If this is all too kinky/rich for your blood, then you're not honoring your own sexual being. Experiment and have fun with sex if its in the confines of a loving relationship but never do anything that makes you repulsed, uncomfortable or worried don't do it! (My personal line is that I don't like any form of excreta; feces, urine, anal - it just puts me off so and I won't go there)

Since you said you don't have a problem with those things --- maybe you can experiment! Take your time and make sure you're using the smallest sized "toys" that will work with plenty of lubrication. There's no "normal" except for what you define it as.

Than you for your response!

Umm noo sweetheart he's gay no guy would ask his girl to that

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Originally Posted by Patricia_luv511

Umm noo sweetheart hes gay no guy would ask his girl to that

My boyfriend isn't gay. Most guys probably don't ask because they fear they'll be looked at as gay.

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Originally Posted by Jarena

My bf isn't gay. Most guys probably don't ask because they fear they'll be looked at as gay.

You're right on. At least your boyfriend is comfortable enough with you to express his feelings towards it. Just make sure you express yours if it's uncomfortable for you.

Best of luck!

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Originally Posted by Jarena

My bf isn't gay. Most guys probably don't ask because they fear they'll be looked at as gay.

I'm confused... why did you ask if he was gay only to say that he is not gay?

Sorry but I don't think "most guys" are into that stuff at all... I'd say that if you agree to do some of the stuff he's asking you to do that you keep a bottle of Scope by the bed... lol.

A couple defines their own sex life, and how they explore and experiment. Whose going to know unless you tell? And who is to say there is only one G spot? The fun is looking for other ones.

Definitely not "normal". But normal depends on perception. If you don't like to do those things, then don't, if you don't mind, then why not? He is wanting to try different things, who knows if he is actually gay... maybe just bored and wanting to experience something different.