My boyfriend works all the time and does not want to have sex anymore. It’s usually the morning quickie with just him finishing. He is always to tired and never wants to go away for the weekend except when his friends ask. He is always making promises about going away but never keeps them. He is stuck to the TV when he is home and leaves me to cook and clean. I miss the romance and I miss him. I go shopping alone and stay at home alone. He is not cheating and not interested in other people just always tired or working. Well I am tired of trying and breaking up is not a solution. He promised to take me away for our second anniversary but is already making excuses.

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Originally Posted by mickeylen

my boyfriend works all the time and does not want to have sex anymore its usualy the morning quickie with just him finishing. he is always to tired and never wants to go away for the weekend except when his friends ask. he is always making promises about going away but never keeps them. he is stuck to the tv when he is home and leavesme to cook and clean. i miss the romance and i miss him. I go shoping alone and stay at home alone. He is not cheating and not interested in other people just always tired or working. well i am tired of trying and breaking up is not a solution. he promised to take me away for our second anniversary but is already making excuses.

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If leaving is not an option, then looks like the only options you have is to, get him a better job, or live with it.

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Originally Posted by C0bra_M3nace

If leaving is not an option, then looks like the only options you have is to, get him a better job, or live with it.

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I can't just leave him because that's not the answer to everything, I love him a lot I do and he has to work for his dad because of personal reasons I just want to know how I can pursued him for a weekend away and how to get the romance going again.

It sounds like you can't persuade him... sounds like he doesn't really want to be persuaded. Nobody here knows either of you so it will be tough to tell you what to do to convince him. Have a talk with him and see what he has to say. Maybe he just isn't as committed as you are and is content with the way things are.

Stop allowing him to run just his program, and open up the talking because if you cannot resolve the issue to the benefit of you both, and he is not willing to make small changes to make you happy, then you have no other choices but to leave and make YOURSELF happy without him.

Or you stay, and make yourself happy without him being with you. The bottom line is let him work, and you make yourself happy, whether he is there and willing or not. Realize there are no quick fixes, and no solutions with out communicating. He thinks he needs to work, and you want romance. I think coming up to the second year, communications and having understanding of each other is LOUSY! Or the process you have been building on is flawed.

If leaving is not an option, then you better let him know what you want and expect from him, and his program for you isn't all that great. You do this calmly, as you improve on taking responsibility for your own happiness, instead of expecting him to make you happy. See the difference? If you keep going along, to get along, you will get what you get.

Talk, and keep talking is how things move along for you both. That's the only way you get to resolutions of conflicts, issues and events or that unthinkable option of leaving is all you have left. So make your case for a weekend off, despite his excuses.

Sit down and talk about how you feel, if he is insensitive to your needs, then break is an options, and it always will be, just because you wouldn't feel comfortable with it, doesn't mean that it is completely ruled out. If he has no interest in what you are going through, why would you want to be with him to begin with?

I talked to him last night and I ended up crying with all the emotions going around and if I just waited a while I would have gotten a big surprise. He was planning to take me away for a week he just wanted it to be a surprise... he showed me the tickets last night. I feel so happy today yet stupid all the same for not being patient. Clearly I learned my lesson. Last night he told me I just have to be patient with him working all the time but also said that we will have our vacations and I shouldn't stress all the time. When we go away he wants to go away for more than just a weekend and truly relax and spend time with me and for that to happen he has to work and save money. He even made us dinner last night=)

Glad to hear all is well! :)