Ask Me Help Desk - Why is she ignoring me?

I and this girl met while I was out and she was working. Got her number and was texting things going great. We have been on two dates first which consisted of bowling, cinema, pool and drinks great first date if I do say so myself.

Second date ended up going to a theme park and had a brilliant time both saying how much we like each other and how we have potential for the future and further dates. Now today I have been really busy trying to fix my car as had an accident the other week and having trouble getting parts and finding one thing after another which goes wrong, so texting she says that hopefully she can see me for a while later on and I said I will see what I can sort out.

So of course nothing ever goes to plan and ended up working on the car until 2 hours ago up 0600 in the morning. So said nah sorry for the late reply but not going to bother tonight had trouble getting this done. What you up to tonight. I get a reply of OK then no problem x and cool x in response to the late reply.

Now in my head I don't think I've been an *** at all and seriously don't get it. So now in my confused state will you please enlighten me, just exactly what did I actually do? Yes my car came first but also without my car I am screwed for work and to get over to see her. About work and the time I did explain ask what she is up to get those replies which I think to be frank is just plain rude but like an idiot did explain myself even though in my head I haven't actually done anything wrong...

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Originally Posted by nuggy123

me and this girl met while i was out and she was working go her number and was texting things gong great. We have been on two dates first which consisted of bowling, cinema, pool and drinks great first date if i do say so myself. Second date ended up going to a theme park and had a brill time both saying how much we like each other and how we have potential for the future and further dates. Now today I have been really busy trying to fix my car as had an accident the other week and having trouble getting parts and finding one thing after another which goes wrong, so texting she says that hopefully she can see me for a while later on and i said i will see what i can sort out. So of course nothing ever goes to plan and ended up working on the car until 2 hours ago up 0600 in the morning so said nah soz for the late reply but not gonna bother tonight had trouble getting this done what you up to tonight. I get a reply of ok then np x and cool x in response to the late reply. Now in my head i dont think ive been a at all and seriously dont get it. So now in my confused state will you please enlighten me, just exactly what did i actually do? yes my car came first but also without my car i am screwed for work and to get over to see her . About work and the time i did explain ask what she is up to to get those replies which i think to be frank is just plain rude but like an idiot did explain myself even though in my head i havent actually done anything wrong.....

Hard to comprehend the story, sounds to me like you've got a paranoid, clingy girl on your hands. You shouldn't have to explain your whereabouts to some girl you went on a couple of dates on. If she's becoming that controlling this early on, how do you think she's going to be married to you. I'd say if you can't work that out with her fast, let her go man.

Maybe you should try talking to her and explaining what happened... TALK to her, not text her.

As long as she is aware that your car has broken down everything will be OK. If she is not understanding, take this as a red flag over the potential relationship and back off completely. Stuff happens, if she isn't going to be there when the bad stuff happens, then she is not worth your time.

I don't see this as something that can't be smoothed out in person before you both freak out or something. Call me old but I see no where she was rude and a reason to flip your switch.