Me and my boyfriend been together for two years. And in the beginning everything was great. And then after a couple months we started to have problems because he likes to stand me up all the time and lie to me. He doesn't call me I call him and doesn't even attempt too.

This has been going on for two years and I'm really tired of it. I love him but I'm really starting resent him at the same time too. What should I do?

Get rid of resentments by expressing your feelings honestly and calmly, and stop allowing his behavior. I assume this is the same guy you have posted about before. And I fear you are way more into him, than he is into you.

How much longer you allow this is up to you, and you have obviously never confronted him and gotten a resolution that works. Or he ignore your concerns and cares only for the sex.

If you can't talk and make good changes, its time to dump him, don't you think?

You are totally right but the feelings are going away slowly and believe me its not a good thing I mean I guess it's a good thing because I'm not so attached anymore and that's when the resentment starts to come in

Standing you up and lying is unacceptable. If he makes an appointment with you and misses it or comes extremely late, that is a broken promise. The standing up, lying, and not calling doesn't add up nicely, but I will try to give an answer trusting the fact your feel he is faithful boyfriend.

I agree with talaniman, you need to be calm and honest about want you want from your boyfriend, instead of bottling up resentment. With the lack of calling and standing up, maybe your schedules don't align. Force your boyfriend to schedule things, the time with you and the time with his friends, it could be arbitrarily Thursday without question he will be hanging out with his boys and on Friday without question he will be taking you out on a date on time every week. I suggested something basically similar to my girlfriend, to be honest we never tried it. For me instead of scheduling time with my friends, it was managing time between my schoolwork and her, and she never got the time she "felt" she needed and I never got the time I "felt" was needed for my assignments. In hindsight I wished I pushed harder in implementing my suggestion.

With your free Thursday night, use that to chat with your girls or join a yoga class. (stay out of you BF's hair for that night) Get more activities, so it doesn't worry you your boyfriend isn't calling. Once you are more preoccupied with things to do, you will be less worried about his lack of calling and in turn he will probably start initiating chat more often to get on your schedule. In my situation, my girl tried doing this, but unfortunately her class was during my freetime and our schedules were more misaligned then ever. I don't say this to scare you, but carve time out for yourself, you can team up with your boyfriend to do this more effectively for the two of you. Or if not just take ownership of your own time, because it seems like your boyfriend is doing the same.

The lying from him has to stop, I am with talaniman "If you can't talk and make good changes."

Thank you this is some great advice I will definitely use it

My boyfriend put me through so much in the last past couple of months that I don't know what to do last week he lied to me and I think that's what push me over the edge so I cursed him out I told him he was an , a liar, and a selfish person then I felt bad.

Although you cursed at him, he deserved to hear your opinion of him. Why would you ever want him back?

Don't feel bad, he needed to hear what you had to say.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Don't feel bad, he needed to hear what you had to say.

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Your right