She is scared of washing her hair I have to hold her down to wash it what to do ?

How old is she? Does she scream and cry?

She is three and yes

Is this new behavior?

Has she ever gotten shampoo in her eyes, or why is she upset?

Yes its new

(Sorry for all the questions. I need to find out all the details.)

Did anything happen that started this new behavior?

No not in the past its okay for the ?

Just between you and me, why do you think she freaks out when getting her hair washed?

Is this in the shower or bathtub or kitchen sink?

Its because she is spoiled rotten and she doesnt't want to do it.
And she knows if she just whines and throws a fit about it
She can make you believe whatever she wants.

Case closed

Has she ever gotten shampoo in her eyes?

I remember when I was 10, I accidentally used pert plus shampoo and got it in my eyes and OH I can STILL remember how much it hurt! My husband uses pert plus... and I swear to god it still scares me LOL I refuse to even TOUCH it.

All children are scared of bathing . You have to convince her somehow otherwise she might develop a life-long fear of water bath . Force her gently .