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I am 23 year old.I am in love relationship since 10 years 2002-12,
I am married now since 2 years with the person I was in love relationship.
My parents don't now that I'm marreid. I'm living with my parents.
Soon my parents going to marry me with the one I have already married.
Problem is that my husband is very possesive and dominating. I accept that I do what he wants. But now he had problem if I talk or meet to my cousin brothers also. He thinks that I have some intimate relationship with them.if I meet my brothers my husband abuse me.I feel very bad.I don't know what to do.when I talk to him and make him understand that he is thinking wrong.he said he have no problem if I talk or meet my brothers and than again when I talk or meet my brothers he started abusing me again... plz tell me what should I do... I can't leave him...

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Originally Posted by tztz

i am 23 year old.i am in love relationship since 10 years 2002-12,
i am married now since 2 years with the person i was in love relationship.
my parents dont now that i m marreid. i m living with my parents.
soon my parents going to marry me with the one i have already married.
problem is that my husband is very possesive and dominating. i accept that i do what he wants. but now he had problem if i talk or meet to my cousin brothers also. he thinks that i have some intimate relationship with them.if i meet my brothers my husband abuse me.i feel very bad.i dont know what to do.when i talk to him and make him understand that he is thinking wrong.he said he have no problem if i talk or meet my brothers and than again when i talk or meet my brothers he started abusing me again..........plz tell me what should i do....i can't leave him.....

Well, if you like being abused and don't want to leave him... then you have no choice but to learn to like being abused.

Because we always tell people they need to leave the abusive relationship.

See what happens when you live a life of deception... you have to make a choice... and you need to do it soon... I'd start with being honest with your family... adn let them know how you are being treated. If you can't get their support... then it will be even harder to take the next step.

Thanxs
But he love me and I know that.
He is possesive and have some miss understanding.
Miss understanding according to me is not end of marriage relationship.
Sometimes when I am very angry with him I also abuse him but that doesn't mean he will leave me.so please give me some really good suggsetion.

Thaxs a lot again

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Originally Posted by tztz

thanxs
but he love me and i know that.
he is possesive and have some miss understanding.
miss understanding according to me is not end of marraige relationship.
sometimes when i am very angry with him i also abuse him but that doesnt mean he will leave me.so plz give me some really good suggsetion.

thaxs a lot again

He does't LOVE YOU if he treats you like that... if you understood what real love was you would know you should expect more...

He tollerates you as a house keeper, maid and cook... if he loved you as a wife... he would do none of those things to you that you mentioned.

I'm not talking about what is said during an argument... we all say things we shouldn't during an argument... I am talking about the rest of the time.

I am not living with him.I live with my parents.how can he treat me like servant... I m sorry I think I can't explain my problem to you well... thanxs for your reply dear.

I am basing my answer on how you said he treats you. Most people treat their employees better than than. Anyone that truly loves someone treats them far better than you said he treats you.

Your words..
".......problem is that my husband is very possesive and dominating. i accept that i do what he wants. but now he had problem if i talk or meet to my cousin brothers also. he thinks that i have some intimate relationship with them.if i meet my brothers my husband abuse me.i feel very bad.i dont know what to do.when i talk to him and make him understand that he is thinking wrong.he said he have no problem if i talk or meet my brothers and than again when i talk or meet my brothers he started abusing me again........."

You simply do NOT treat someone you love this way.

He his treating you like a possession... not a wife. Not a friend... certainly not like someone he cares about.

Two years you've been married to this person and still living in your parent's house?

So for two years they have been supporting you when you are married, evidently in name only?

Married 2 years and no pregnancies and you've been able to keep the marriage a secret from everyone?

Are you sneaking around seeing your brothers and cousins? It sounds like it. Why are you doing this and not seeing them openly with other family members?

For some reason your husband suspicions incest with the brothers or cousins. Have any of them ever touched you inappropriately in a sexual way?

How old is your husband and would this have been an arranged marriage had you not married secretly? So, your husband has been having sex with you since you were 13 years old, or is this what you meant by a love relationship?

Does your husband work, have a job/career to support you and take you to his home…or is he living with his parents?

Thanxs

Every thing is fine now mam,
Thanxs for your response.
If I have any problem next time than I think you will definitely help me again
I had a word with my husband and now all is well.

Thanxs,

Every thing is fine now.
I had a word with my husband and problem is sorted now.
Hoping if I had any problem again than you will help me again.
All is well now.

Thanks

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Originally Posted by tztz

thanxs,

every thing is fine now.
i had a word with my husband and problem is sorted now.
hoping if i had any problem again than u will help me again.
all is well now.

thanks

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