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  • May 15, 2012, 08:47 PM
    Scott560
    Has feelings for me, but doesn't want to lose me...
    I'm a 17 year old guy whose had some pretty bad luck with dating over the last year. About a month ago, I started talking to a new girl. She'd been in a relationship for about 6 months, and her boyfriend had dumped her (about 2 months ago) We started hanging out, and I've developed pretty strong feelings for her. I told her how I felt, and took her on a date. Things had been going great since then, moving forward slowly but surely.

    The other night, we were talking and she told me that she didn't really want a relationship right now. That she wasn't ready for the stress on top of everything else. I was a little disappointed, but I understood. I told her I'd wait for the day she was. I asked if it was a situation where she'd rather be friends, or she really did just want to wait. She said that it's a mixture of both, that she did have some feelings for me, but also that she didn't want to lose me if things were to go bad.

    I guess I'm confused as to what I should think. I'm just confused and disappointed overall, and I don't know what my next move should be. I hate that women place all the decent guys in the friend zone, and then complain about it.

    Any advice on the situation?
  • May 16, 2012, 04:51 AM
    talaniman
    Be friends but date others. That's what healthy guys do when they get turned down for romance. Why be stuck AND disappointed. Never know, she could be a good hang out buddy, and no telling what happens later, if you don't get yourself to stuck and cannot see and enjoy other options, and opportunities..

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