What signs indicate that you want to end a friendship?

I do not know, because I never want to end any.

Joe

I only had to end one here recently and it was because I realized that I was being controlled. I will not be in a controlling relationship.

It is very simple.

Do you want to be this person's friend?

If this person annoys you to the point you don't really want to associate with them, then don't. Only you can answer that.

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Originally Posted by Teaching

What signs indicate that you want to end a friendship?

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You change or your friend changes.

You want to move forward with your life and your friend wants to stay the same.

You want to meet a new variety of people and your friend is comfortable with the same gang.

You want to experience new things and your friend is comfortable right where there at.

I had a terrible struggle over this a few years ago. My friend, my oldest, had changed considerably.

She started to date someone new, and she was still married. The new guy was her best friend's boyfriend. O.k. right there, I was having problems liking her, because the betrayal could have been toward me had it been my husband that she had her eye on. By the way, shehas always thought my husband is a dreamboat but he is a one woman man. (Ima lucky gal).

Furthermore, when trying to remain friends, I spoke up when this said friend showed anger toward her daughter for not accepting the new boyfriend when my friend's marriage broke up. I simply stated that my friend was being unfair as the daughter has a right to be upset about the previous events. Things got worse when I found out I couldn't stomach her new beau. I never said anything, but my friend knows me to be very bubbly which I wasn't around him.

This friend quit returning my phone calls and I was still trying to hang on, as it was a 30 year friendship dating back to jr. high. When she called months later and asked how I was, I said I was very ill. She didn't skip a beat and asked me for an address. No condolences and no questions as to what was wrong with me. Weeks later, she called again. The same thing happened. She asked how I was and I replied that I was STILL very ill to which she asked for the same address. I suggested sacrastically that maybe she should write it down this time.

A long time afterward, this same friend called to ask me to come to her wedding. I declined. It is easy to END a friendship. Sometimes hanging on is nearly impossible with some people.

When it cause more grief than happiness.

If you have to ask weather or not you want to end it? I'd say that's a sign.

When do you want to end a friendship? I guess when you ask yourself why am I still friends with this person? And list reasons you would want to stay or want to end the friendship. One side will weigh more than the other. Some things will bear more weight than others; such a manipulating, lying, or cheating you, or blatantly ignoring you, or like sexy stated, someone who only was into themselves and not caring about you.

I almost lost my best friend a couple years ago and it nearly killed me. We have been friends since college - over 30 years ago. She was dating and got engaged and just forgot she had other friends. Which, part of that is normal. I could see that. But she never had time for anyone anymore. Then she tried to hook me up with the best friend of her fiancé and that was pitiful - the guy was essentially homeless and sick and needed a place to stay. I was insulted. We finally had one of those long talks and I told her that I loved her as a sister and that would never change. But to please, not push this guy on me. It was like she woke up. We were able to work through that awkward time.

Sometimes though, friendships do not work out for the better. Then it is time to say adieu and go your own ways. Do it in peace.

You all sure gave me so much to think about. It is amazing to see how a relationship can evolve and change over time. Someone you think you are close to isn't the same a year later...

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Originally Posted by Teaching

You all sure gave me so much to think about. It is amazing to see how a relationship can evolve and change over time. Someone you think you are close to isn't the same a year later.....

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That's true. Sometimes your not the same either. While you can hold onto the past and the good times you had it can't be a reason to continue a friendship if it just isn't worth it anymore.