My significant other of several months ended things with me because he "Wasn't ready to go from one marriage to another." He broke up with his boyfriend of almost four years several months back and dated another guy before me, and he told me that he and his boyfriend had been growing apart for a year. His ex won't move out and he won't kick him out of his house because he insists that they be civil(they have been sleeping separately for over a year as well). He(my now ex-boyfriend) assured me that he loves me, but he's not ready to be in a relationship right now, and that he would like to try things in time. I myself have been in two long term relationships and never felt this way about another person. Should I move on or should I wait? I want nothing more than to be with him, but I don't want to waste my life on him. Someone help, please.

You should surely wait. When he is saying that he loves you then why to worry. You say they he wants some time to comletly come out of the relationship so give him some time. Moreover if you are saying that you don't want to waste time, then its really very sad to say that you don't love him honestly.

There are some couples who can go from a serious relationship, through to the end of the relationship, and still remain friends. For most of us, I don't think that usually works.

When a relationship is over its over. It's not over with 'maybe later' or 'when I figure things out' or 'I love you but I can't be with you' or 'I need space' etc. etc.

I would not wait for someone who apparently loves me, but is not available to continue with the relationship.at another time. It's not an option to chop up a relationship, and let someone go, with the possibility of something down the road. That may work for the person calling the shots, but where does that leave you.

My advice to you is to close this chapter of your life, because the relationship is over. See other people, and don't put your life on hold. You have no idea what could be around the corner and opportunities you might miss.

IF at some point in the future, he wants to date again, and you are available, proceed with caution, and remember how hard it was to let him go. Can you trust him not to repeat his behaviour, and hurt you again?

Consider yourself single, and give some time to heal. Put yourself back in charge of your life, and live it.

To wait around for someone who may or may not decide you are now allowed back into his life, is to me, a waste of precious time.

I would not wait around for him. You are an option. He has told you he is not ready but maybe later, why volunteer to be in a situation like that?
Move on.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I would not wait around for him. You are an option. He has told you he is not ready but maybe later, why volunteer to be in a situation like that?
Move on.

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Thanks:) I'm going to try to get myself in a better place; I'm not going to wait if an opportunity presents itself that would be best for me. If he decides that he doesn't want me back in his life, so be it. I'm worth more than that, and I have more to offer than that. I'm an intelligent and compassionate individual that has a plethora of qualities to offer. I will find someone eventually, and, if I don't, I'm not going to be upset. Being alone doesn't scare me.

Good for you!

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