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  • May 10, 2012, 11:12 PM
    himanshucooool
    Love relationship
    I have 5 year love relationship with a girl but we fight too much and I'm confused abut this relation for future or mirage. What should I do Please suggest me.
  • May 11, 2012, 02:41 AM
    joypulv
    Be your own therapists. Sit down together and each write a list of what you want from the other. Then go down the list one by one with a solution and write it down.

    Make the list positives, not negatives. In other words, don't say 'you never go anywhere fun with me anymore', say 'I want to go to hear live music twice a month.'
    'I need more affection.'
    'I want to spend more time away from computer games.'
    'I wish you didn't spend all your time with your friends who don't like me.'
    ETC
  • May 11, 2012, 02:50 AM
    diyangel
    Fights are OK as long as they are not dragged. Keep the communication open and try to be more adjusting towards each other... love always finds its way... :)Best always
  • Mar 20, 2013, 09:25 AM
    MLQ0123
    Seek a marriage counsiler or terapist before getting married you both do not want to make a mistake you will regret for you or any children that you may have.
  • Mar 22, 2013, 12:07 PM
    lovemynavy22
    What do you all fight about? Are you both being stubborn and unwilling to change? Anything is resolvable if people are willing to change.
  • Mar 22, 2013, 05:14 PM
    MLQ0123
    I relize every marriage has this problem, we argue about money, but I give in every time. But we lately have been having disputes not a scream out fight but just disagreements about his job. He works Monday through Wednesday from 5 A.M. to 7 P.M. he comes home eats, showers and goes to bed then Thursday and Friday he is out of town comes back on Saturday afternoon then comes home showers and goes to bed for 3 hours, he will work on the truck or go to his dad to pick up some mail, 2x a week we have grocery shopping to do I ask for us to wait and do it on Sunday or late that night but he wants to do it now.

    so the problem is we never talk on the phone during the week, we never have any time togather when he comes home, we never snuggle or hug. This has been going on since he took this job 4 weeks ago. Our sex life has been 2x a month now (use to be 4x a week and last year when we first met was 3x a week for the first 8 months).
  • Mar 22, 2013, 05:58 PM
    lovemynavy22
    You both need to communicate and talk through the issues. I've been there and it's not easy, but you have to ask yourself, is my marriage with saving. We all go through those challenges. Pray and ask God to help guide you. Most of all, don't give up too soon. It gets better

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