I am having a very hard time with my girlfriend, we have been together for ten years and I can't believe were still together. I think in my case the reason I haven't left her was because of our childern, were been on a rollercoaster ride these past ten years. Not to say that its all because of her, I know I have issues that I have not dealt with yet, but I am making an effort by seen a psychologist, and I am a in motion towards dealing with my problems. My girlfriend is also seeing a psychologist and were just in the beginning stages of our healing. But one thing is driving me crazy, it's that my girlfriend is always on the defence, and maybe at times I am in the wrong, but it seems to me that's there is no control on my girlfriend behalf, and when she gets angry, its always bring tears to her eyes, when she's going through her tantrums and I just can't help but to fall into the argument most of the time because of the intensity, over such insignificant issues. I am not going to give up on my family or my girlfriend, I love them way too much, and that's why I am here just to hear what some of you think of my situation.

When she's shouting or getting angry, take yourself away so you don't shout and talk to her about what's wrong and support her

I was in the same situation just that my marriage fell apart because of it. He was just too messed up and starting cheating... When we went to marriage counseling we learned some stuff I found really helpful. If she's starting a fight walk away but tell her you will be back once you got your head clear again. The rule is if you leave you the one that has to come back and talk about things whenever you ready. It works very well in the life I have now. Also you guys should consider going to marital counseling it helps to talk about things that you both are going through with a mentor that can step in when things slip out of hand. I hope things will get better... Just don't give up! Make sure though that you don't suffer too much!