Moved to its own thread

5 yrs with this man, hell I don't even know how many times we broke up and got back together. We did live together for 2 plus years. Now in February he tells me he doesn't want me.. is miserable... and wants to be alone. BUT every few weeks we end up crawling back into bed... blissful sex.. that blows both of our minds.. but can't make a relationship work.

I could have sex with him the rest of my life. I think he recently got a new girl friend, and still having sex with me.

I think it is pretty obvious, you are being used for the sex. Having an ex that is willing to have sex, yet not being tied to them in a relationship is what people are sometimes looking for, but make no mistake, it means NOTHING. And if you are getting your hopes up you will only end up in pain from this, I would recommend going no contact with the ex, and definitely cut the sex out, have some self respect for yourself, if someone wants you, they need to make themselves explicitly for you.

I have no expectations on it being anything more than that. Just makes me wonder why he would come back to me for sex, when he has sex. And probably without all the memories.. right

He does it because you let him, and that's the only reason, so stop worrying about his motives, and question yours. He cheats, yet you help! And you both are great in bed, and nothing else.

The lesson, you cannot build a relationship on sex, but it makes for great affairs, flings, booty call, and friends with benefits, and CHEATING!

He makes new memories, and a relationship with the new girl, and revisits old memories with you, without the worry of a failed relationship. Just some food for thought.