My mom is fine, she loves me. Problem is we are sooo DIFFERENT. She thought she is right about almost everything, and it does, too. But the way she act and talk to me let me feel she'll never try to understand me.

I speak of this problem couple of times, she take it as a excuse at first(hoding a long time)... and she got it but nothing different happens. We never have a seat and talk, its hard for her to share feelings, thinking whatever. Only food, chores, and... "what do you want for dinner?","How come this show so bad"... Oh!moives!finally...

She's just the person who can't "hear" from me inside. I don't like to hate her, cause I love her. Mother's day is coming and I'm not a teenager anymore... Can I do anything to make things better?

Welcome to this site, little moon. How old are you? Do you have any brothers or sisters?

Wow sounds like my life! Well I can't really help you, I'm 18, and have given up on try to get love from my mum, I've moved in with my dad, which I know I'm lucky I can do. Its hard, it really is, when you never seem to be getting through to someone. People say just talk but my mum doesn't see iny problem in how she acts, its all my fault...

If you ever want to talk just let me know, in the same boat as you.

Mothers don't need to be best friends. You say she's fine and she loves you. You are different - great! That's to be expected in many ways just because you are different generations. If she's opinionated, just stick to your opinions and try not to get into any topics that you know you won't agree on.
You say you are not a teenager anymore, so that means you are an adult. Where are your friends? Why do you need so much from a mother? In fact, why are you still living at home?

Love your mom unconditionally, whether she understands you or not. Differences don't have to mean conflict. Strive to handle YOUR own issues better.

Mom's or dad's show love in different ways, often telling you that you will ruin you life and that they hate your best friend is telling you they love you.

Also as we grow up, ( you said you are not a teenager any more) so are you in your 20's ?

But often parents have a hard time letting the kids grow up in their mind. As kids grow and leave home ( are you still living at home ?) relationships change.

You don't like to hate her?

How serious is this problem? Has she changed recently? Some parents do their best but that is never good enough.

If you want to "fix" the relationship and stop hating your mother you should sit down with her and talk to her - it's all about communication.

Do you come running to her for every little thing?

Hate is a very strong word, I don't think you "hate" her. Sometimes me and my mom don't get along and we might even argue more than the average family but that does not mean I hate her. I just strive to tolerlate it and before I know it I'm over it.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Welcome to this site, lil moon. How old are you? Do you have any brothers or sisters?

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Younger sis. Thanks. Problem still exist, but I feel better now.

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Originally Posted by MeganMoo13

Wow sounds like my life!! Well I can't really help you, I'm 18, and have given up on try to get love from my mum, i've moved in with my dad, which i know im lucky i can do. Its hard, it really is, when you never seem to be getting through to someone. People say just talk but my mum doesnt see iny problem in how she acts, its all my fault...

If you ever wanna talk just let me know, in the same boat as you.

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Thanks. You're very nice. Let's keep going!

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Originally Posted by joypulv

Mothers don't need to be best friends. You say she's fine and she loves you. You are different - great! That's to be expected in many ways just because you are different generations. If she's opinionated, just stick to your opinions and try not to get into any topics that you know you won't agree on.
You say you are not a teenager anymore, so that means you are an adult. Where are your friends? Why do you need so much from a mother? In fact, why are you still living at home?

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You're right! Thanks for those advice. Make me think more